Why You Should Never Date a Girl With an Eating Disorder

By now I’m sure that you’ve all heard about the drama surrounding Tuthmosis’ post 5 Reasons to Date a Girl With an Eating Disorder on Return of Kings – if you haven’t, just scroll down to the comments.  HuffPo stumbled upon it, completely missed the satire, and thousands of self-entitled College girls decided that the appropriate response would be to start making death threats.

The opposite of Love isn’t Indifference, I guess, it’s Hate.

But the comments got me thinking: “Eating Disorders” – are they actually a thing?  Because I’m confident that they are not – at least, not in the way most people think.  The reality is that a girl with an “Eating Disorder” is a vicious and spiteful Schedule II case (usually a Borderline or a Histrionic), and while Tuthmosis is correct about them being demons in the sack, they’re demons outside of the sack, too; they are toxic people who should be avoided at all costs.

To explain why we’re going to have to delve into the pseudo-science which underlies much of modern Psychology.

Some Psychologists are legitimate scientists, trying to better understand how people function, and applying that knowledge to help them improve.  These are the men and women who’ve discovered fascinating things about the mind.  Far too many of them, however, act like autistic savants, or scheming manipulators; rather than try and understand the mind, they describe particularized manifestations of mental illness, and call it a day.  Big Insurance demands a diagnosis, and Big Pharma demands that we cure it with a pill.  As a result, mental health becomes just another for-profit-at-all-costs machine.  The crazy person gets labelled, they’re fed a narcotic (often one with less benefits, and more side-effects than a placebo), they get to feel special because they’ve joined a victim group, while the Psychologist pats himself on the back and ignores all the damage he’s caused in the world.

Now you might think that this is the point where I reject the term “mental illness” for being incomparable to physical illness; quite the contrary, in fact.  Both the mind and the body are complex, anti-fragile systems, and when such a system goes wrong, it usually happens due to one of only a handful of errors.  This is the problem with diagnostic criteria like the DSM series; they label thousands upon thousands of personality disorders, without ever asking what the motive cause behind them is.  They simply create a list of observable behaviours and call that the disorder.  If this were how mental illness actually worked, you’d expect the same mental illnesses springing up in every country, and every culture; but you don’t.

Instead what you find is that a particularized mental illness is almost always culture-specific.

With physical disease, variations are predictable: factors such as climate, living conditions, and population density adequately explain why any given disease is more common in Country A than Country B; add in the genetic variations between ethnicities, and your theory is complete.  Disease manifestation will vary from place to place, but it will still occur in all places.

Mental illness – when properly understood – should be no different.

Variations in light levels, cultural values, genetic personality variations, and urban density will obviously affect the proportions – but it won’t affect the underlying causes.

Or, for that matter, the fundamental solutions.  For both mental and physical illness, the solutions are:

Good Diet, and –
Good Hygiene.

The application to the physical body is obvious; the number one thing you can do to improve your health is eat a nourishing diet, and take care of yourself.  Work out, wash your hands, and avoid people who are infected with something – there is a huge moral component to this.  Good diet and hygiene take discipline and forethought, as well as a community of people around you who are doing the same.  Mental health is no different.  To stay mentally healthy you need to:

Surround yourself with positive (non-toxic) people, and-
Pay attention to your own mental hygiene, so that you don’t become a toxic person.

As with physical health these are moral choices.

Granted, complex systems (even anti-fragile ones such as ourselves) have millions of ways in which they can go wrong, but only one manner in which they can go right, and in a certain sense this justifies the endless lists which you find in the DSM.  But while symptoms might vary between diseases, the fundamental aspects of them do not.  Either:

  • A virus or bacterium got in, and is eating you,
  • You suffered an act of violence, or:
  • A design flaw needs correction.

The last is deserving of compassion (Aspergers – if you consider that a mental disorder – is comparable [they may need help learning coping techniques]); the second might have been avoidable, but deserves treatment (PTSD from emotional trauma); the first shows a clear moral failing on the part of the individual, and will require moral commitment to cure and prevent in the future.

The particularized symptoms might vary tremendously, but the underlying mechanism won’t.

So let us consider the Bulimic, who’s demanding that you pity her and pay for her “healthcare,” because she has a disease (known only in North America) which causes her to stick her hand down her throat after each meal, and buy lots of Tic Tacs.

The Victim Groups (read: enabling groups) would have you believe that she sees a distorted version of herself in he mirror: that she’s been so brainwashed with “patriarchal, misogynistic” imagery of skinny women in Hollywood, that she looks at her 110 lb frame and sees a whale.

What absolute bunk; if you think that this is how mental disorders work, then you probably think that the depictions of LSD trips in movies are literal depictions of what you see after dropping acid.  As for the imagery influencing her?  True, but incidental; there’s something deeper at play.

Ignore the justifications, and look at the behaviour: she’s engaged in self-harm.  More specifically, she’s engaged in hidden self-harm – committing a slow form of suicide in the privacy of the bathroom stall.

Suicide is a flight from suffering, but there’s often a great deal of spite involved in it, too.

This is what you get for not loving me enough.

It’s a passive-aggressive attack on those whom the Suicide wants to feel love from; their parents, the peers who are bullying them, it’s a dumping of bad karma on “those who’ve done me wrong.” In most cases there are other solutions – learning better coping techniques, standing up to bullies, and owning up to the things you did to get bullied in the first place – but rather than confronting the problems within themselves, they embrace the model of the victim, and project all their blame onto the outside world.  Suicide is the perfect embrace of the victim mentality, refusing to take responsibility for anything, and laying your own self-destruction at the feet of those around you.

In the case of the girl with the Eating Disorder, it’s just a lesser form of the victim mentality: it’s your fault that she has to throw up to be beautiful, it’s your fault that you take her to restaurants without healthy menu choices, it’s your fault that she never resolved the issues with her father, ad nauseam.  She has made the moral decision not to take responsibility for any of her actions, and so long as you are the man in her life, she will pin the blame on you.

Self-destructive people will always try and destroy those around them.

The sort of girl who has an eating disorder is the sort of girl who’ll poke holes in the condoms, who’ll file a false rape accusation, who’ll start an argument the night before you go to a job interview, and who’ll give you the silent treatment when you take her on vacation.

In other words, she is a monster – a monster by her own choice, even if somebody else’s making.

Everybody’s been through some sort of trauma in life, but that’s no excuse to spread that poison into other peoples’ souls.  All of us screw up every once in a while, and treat our friends poorly – sometimes trauma can take years of concerted effort to fully heal from – but regardless of our backgrounds, we’re morally obligated to get better, and stop hurting others.

The girl with the Eating Disorder, like all of those who revel in their own infirmities, rejects all notion of responsibility for her choices.  She is toxic, destructive, and – ultimately – pathetic.

Avoid her like the plague that she is.


For a thorough exploration of mental illness, to help you avoid toxic people as well as to prevent you becoming toxic yourself, I highly recommend the writings of Ricky Raw at his blog The Rawness.

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Davis M.J. Aurini

Trained as a Historian at McMaster University, and as an Infantry soldier in the Canadian Forces, I'm a Scholar, Author, Film Maker, and a God fearing Catholic, who loves women for their illogical nature.

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124 Responses

  1. patriarchal landmine says:

    25% of women are on some prescription psychotropic medication. another uncounted hefty percentage just self medicate in the other typical manners.

    this is a really good post.

  2. Dannyfrom504 says:

    I’m a cynical dick. I have zero sympathy for people with “eating disorders”. I’ve seen some of the worst poverty ever.

    If you decide you don’t want to eat because you’re that concerned about body image. Go ahead and purge. You don’t deserve to eat.

  3. earl says:

    I always take these disorders also being an indicator of a person’s soul. The mind and the body are just the physical state of where one person is at spiritually.

    The idea of demonic influence needs to make a come back.

  4. Sean says:

    See, this is (partly) why I don’t go for girls. Men have so much less drama going on…

    I can attest that diet is an important part of mental well-being. A couple months of processed college food took its toll on both my body and mind: weights I could lift comfortably were becoming challenging, I was experiencing wild mood swings and feelings of futility. A solid week of home-cooked meals later, I was hitting weights I’ve never done before, and my mood is much more optimistic and determined.

    I definitely think that the mental health field is too quick to treat symptoms and gloss over deeper psychological issues. The hangup some men have about their circumcision comes to mind: there are men who are utterly convinced that their manhood has been destroyed and their sex life ruined because a flap of skin that may are may not be as useful as the appendix got removed from their bodies when they were infants. All despite the fact that there have been plenty of badass, manly men throughout history who have been circumcised and they have absolutely no way of knowing if their sexual arousal would be greater if they were uncircumcised. In addition to the inferiority and self-worth complexes that are suggested by the above, I think there may also be some parental resentment: many men who seek foreskin restoration are angry at their parents for “taking their choice away” or “forcing their religion on me.” Resentment of parents for parenting choices and relationship problems manifests in an obsession with small piece of tissue whose removal was ordered by their parents.

    The men do protest too much, methinks.

  5. great post. and great message. I honestly couldn’t understand where Tuth was trying to take that post of his. those types of girls (and those that enable then) are terrible prospects. I’m happy to find someone is pushing that message instead of the “fuck em anyways” attitude. but I wouldn’t expect anything else from Stares At The World. btw I’m loving the amount of posting you’re doing.

  6. bojangles says:

    I enjoyed this post, it’s on point and a great response to the hate from these vile women. I’m of the same belief as Danny having witnessed severe poverty in many places.

  7. Kasagi says:

    I remember you way back from the RMMB days, glad to see you’re still around.

    I learned this lesson when I dated a BPD chick for a mercifully short period of time. It’s always about them and their disorder and how you’re unwillingness to validate their behavior makes you a horrible person. Being around people like that can really fuck with your head, took me a year and a half to test the relationship waters again.

  8. Will S. says:

    Didja hear about the latest diet trend? Stupid young girls are eating cotton balls dipped in OJ to avoid eating real food. Of course, this can lead to furballs blocking one’s intestine, which could be fatally harmful.


    There’s no limit to the stupid things girls will do to lose weight / avoid weight gain, rather than simply exercising more.

    I just wish it was always fatal, and very very quickly so; would weed stupid genes from the gene pool… Oh I know, I shouldn’t say that, should I. But surely some people truly deserve to win Darwin Awards…

  9. Will S. says:

    Strange, appears my comment didn’t even go into moderation, just disappeared.

    Trying again, without link, Google this yourself:

    Latest diet trend: girls eating cotton balls dipped in orange juice, to not eat real food. Potential result of this: something like a hairball building up in intesting, potentially fatal.

  10. whorefinder says:

    Definitely true, wow. Have you dated an eating disorder girl yourself? Having done so—a true one, past 30, overweight, and yet clinically bulimic —had to go to inpatient treatment–I can tell you that, once they stop seeing you as a savior, they start seeing you as an extension of themselves, and something to hurt for their not feeling good.

    Run, boys, run.

  11. Aurini says:

    No, but I did make the mistake of letting a Borderline into my life. Cost my $10,000 defending against a false domestic violence accusation.

    I was arrested at my mothers house with a black eye and a cigarette burn on my head; she didn’t have a mark on her.

    The Arresting Officer testified in my defence, but he didn’t have an option when it came to prosecuting me. The Prosecuting Attorney, on the other hand – a complete monster.

  12. Moxi says:

    You are truly an oblivious moron

  13. dégueulasse says:

    « Self-destructive people will always try and destroy those around them. »

    I suggest you to take a few minutes to read this: http://lincolnwomensaid.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/selfharm.pdf
    which might help you understand a bit more why you’re as lost as your autistic savants and scheming manipulators in this case.

    Wasted by Marya Hornbacher could also give you a great view of the eating disordered mind; perhaps will you open your eyes to something other than the typical “medical attention-whore” stereotype you’re stuck into.

  14. anorexic girl says:

    Wow. The ignorance in this post is mind blowing. Do the world a favor and don’t write about things you have absolutely no knowledge or qualification to comment on….even in passing….ffs

  15. I'm here says:

    Instead of saying something terribly hateful to those who commented or to you, the writer, I an simply going to say this: I have an eating disorder. I have had one since I was fourteen. I don’t know what started it, but I am fully aware that fixing my daddy issues and blaming my boyfriend aren’t going to make anything better. I have a mental illness. It’s not going away because I want it to or because I change my home life or because I take a pill. Yes, it can be managed. But managed is all it can be.

    Please, next time before ANYONE post something hateful about anyone with any type of mental illness, please do a little research. Not every single person with an Eating Disorder is going to make YOUR life hell. Stereotyping isn’t right with any other “group” of people, don’t make stereotypes about people with a mental illness.

  16. Mel says:

    What the hell? That’s all I have to say. I’ve suffered with Anorexia since I was in the 5th grade, not because I wanted to or because it’s what’s “popular at the time.” I have no idea what caused it. I was a happy child up till then. I still am happy majority of the time.
    Instead of saying ALL girls that have this disorder are the plague, why don’t you just keep your mouth shut? Hasn’t anyone ever told you “If you don’t have nothing nice to say, then don’t say anything at all”? I’ve been trying to recover, but this just made me feel like shit.
    So, if your saying girls with EDs are SO terrible, then so are guys. Guys suffer from EDs, too just so you know.
    You’re the real monster here; stereotyping isn’t the way to go.
    Even though I’m suffering I try my best to be happy and smile. I don’t bring people down, and I’m not a raving monster that needs to be avoided because I have something wrong in my head. People who think like you are just ignorant because you’ve never dealt with someone like us. You think you have, but you haven’t. I assure you that most girls you “relate” this to aren’t really suffering and they only want attention. So you aren’t completely at fault.
    I don’t want attention; I hate it actually, but I really needed to point out your flaws. I really hope you can correct them.
    Please do be so ignorant next time.

  17. bj says:

    I have been bulimic for 12 years. I have tried to self “heal” so many times, or just stop. Yes I was sexually molested as a young girl, yes my mum dieted from as young as I can remember, yes I worked at a pub where men would pinch my arse as if I was an object, and yes I have always been shy and suffer from low self esteem. But I do not have a mental disorder, I truly believe that my problem lies in my dieting background and relationship with myself. I never realised how much I put on my husband in regards to this being his fault until recently. I had this problem before i met him, and I plan to get rid of him with him. This post, and the comments have opened my eyes to opinions which I would have considered selfish and uneducated in the past. Now that I am dealing with my issues, I can see that I have been a horrible, moody cow in my relationships and used the disordered eating as an excuse, when no one made me vomit up my meal to begin with. I dont need to diet to be pretty, or vomit to be thin enough to be socially accepted, but I do need to undo the harsh self talk which got me in this position, and treat others with the respect they deserve after putting up with my ways for so long. So I guess I’m thanking you for helping me see that this was never a mental disorder, and that since I dont even like me, so why should anyone else. time to be nice to myself and everyone else, cut the crap and stop using food to make myself feel better, face my issues.

  18. Aurini says:

    It begins… XD

    Funny – I did a video warning people about how dangerous Borderline Personality Disorder was some time ago, and the comments on their mimicked, almost word-for-word, the comments above:

    I caught borderline when I was…
    It’s not my fault…
    I’m a nice person who doesn’t harm anyone…
    You shouldn’t stereotype us…
    You’re so ignorant…

    No other mental condition derives so much protest from its “victims” as the BPD; further evidence that all you eating-disorder girls are BPD.

  19. Hmm says:

    This post is more for all the girls (and boys…seriously, the issue is becoming more and more prevalent among men, too, so don’t turn it into a sexist battle) looking at this who, like myself, have an ED. You know who you are and you know the writing and positive responses to this article are born of ignorance. If the author and followers followed modern science as well as information on eating disorders, they would know that science is actually showing a major genetic component to EDs and bulimia is not only known as an ED in North America but rather internationally. You guys know you know more about EDs than these people considering you have one and thus do endless extensive research on it (at least, this is a trait I see common among a lot of us), so breath easy.

    On the other hand, who cares about these people? They’re lacking humanity and respect, so would you ever even want to be involved with one? There’s so many people out there who are compassionate and empathetic and who will love you for you. These men are wanting women to fit they’re mold, and if a woman doesn’t they pull the catch 22: “crazy.” It’s they’re final resort because if you call someone crazy and s/he argues it, you can say that’s proof for being crazy. Just ignore these people – they’re stuck in the old world of hysteria and male dominance. Most of the world has moved on without them, including you and the people you want to surround yourself with. Just like the author said, avoid people who are toxic and like a poison in your life aka, these people.

  20. Ignorance says:

    Okay, eating disorders not only affect females, but males too so you’re hatred towards women is made clear here. In my opinion you’re the monster, and I’m going to make some uninformed judgements on you now. You sound like a petty little boy who has possibly been rejected from his mother, if not a woman who you used to love who had problems with self image. For you to write this in such depth, anger and ignorance makes me feel like this was personal, which is fine, but you don’t need to victimise everybody who is suffering because I am no monster. You are sociopathic, so maybe you should just pop a pill and have everything disappear because I tell you now, there is no magic pills to cure eating disorders, we continue through life alone. Strong. Against people like you. Now, I’m not going to get angry because I truly believe that you have some underlying mental health problem yourself, but I feel empathy (you obviously can’t being a sociopath) so I’m just going to make the suggestion to keep your mouth shut. You sound so unintelligent despite the fact that your ultimate aim was to sound intelligent, you have completely misinterpreted what an eating disorder is so you look idiotic.

  21. Breeeee says:

    The comments on this post are just as disgusting as this post itself.
    The root of eating disorders doesn’t lie in body image, or even food for that matter, but in SELF-HATRED.
    They aren’t reserved for the privileged or rich or even white.
    They tend to exist in people who have suffered from hardships, other serious mental disorders and quite frequently sexual abuse.
    EDs are diseases, that are usually caused by some sort or trauma and only MANIFEST themselves through eating habits.
    Trauma that I dare to believe is usually inflicted by the type of people who write ignorant articles like these. . . or make equally ignorant comments on them *cough-cough*
    So congrats, you’ve successfully singled out a group of people who already fucking loathe themselves.
    Hope you don’t cause any suicides.

  22. IdiotSlayer says:

    “No other mental condition derives so much protest from its “victims” as the BPD; further evidence that all you eating-disorder girls are BPD.”

    Do you know every person with an ED?
    Do you even know ANYONE with an ED?
    Are you aware that EDs exists in *gasp* males as well?
    Are you aware that you’re using the same type of discrimination, generalization and stereotyping that’s employed by the same type of people who justify racism by saying things that start with “Well I once knew this ONE black guy. . .”

    Or do you just eat stupid for breakfast?
    Just answer ‘Yes’ to the latter, and I’ll understand.

  23. KittyKat says:

    I pity the Borderline girl who wasted her life on this moron.
    A shame she didn’t do more damage.
    Stick to post-apocalyptic sci-fi or whatever the fuck it is you write but no one has ever heard of.

  24. Carmen says:

    In the future, please educate yourself before you formulate an opinion on something like mental illness and post it on the internet.

  25. Lacrymosa says:

    I feel like enough people have slammed you, so I’m not going to do that too much.

    I’d just like to ask, where is your evidence coming from? You’re talking about how ED people have no soul and are out to get attention and ruin lives, but I don’t see too much science supporting that. I’d do anything to hide my eating problems, as would practically anyone else with an eating disorder. We’re not begging for medication at all or attention.

    I find it flawed to saw “I know 1 bipolar/bulimic/etc girl and she’s bad so they all must be”. Hitler didn’t have an eating disorder and he was, by any standard, immoral in the least. Does this mean that everyone without an eating disorder is immoral?

    Also, you claim that “toxic” people are always out get everyone and make them miserable. However, isn’t that what you’re doing by slamming people with eating disorders? Practice what you preach or don’t preach at all. Not only is your “toxic” theory unsupported by science and clearly flawed, but you seem to be a poor example of your own ideals.

    You also claim that people with eating disorders will file false charges of domestic abuse and whatnot. I fail to see the link between these traits. Furthermore, if you treat the women in your life the way you treat people with eating disorders, you should expect such charges in the first place. Males are more likely to be rapist and child molesters. Should we now ostracize all men?

    Having said that, there are “wannarexics” or people who do fake eating disorders for attention. Perhaps this is who you are confusing us with. We can all agree that these people deserve no respect and should be avoided, but don’t over-generalize who falls into this category.

    I also saw posts about how there’s starvation going on. This has nothing to do with eating disorders. The food I don’t eat isn’t going to a starving child and I’m not starving myself to spite impoverished communities. If you’re so concerned with wasting food, it would be a better idea, for example, to lobby against major fishing companies because they operate on a surplus or against your local restaurant because they don’t give poor people free food.

    You also make bold claims about how EDs aren’t “mental diseases” or how half the mental symptoms are bs. Again, you have neither evidence nor experience.

    Why are you so bent on trashing people with eating disorders? If you’re trying to prevent “toxic” or “negative” feelings/people, maybe try changing yourself first.

  26. Anonymous says:

    You are a fucking idiot.

  27. Ashley says:

    With you’re line of thinking that people with mental problems should be avoided like a plague, then there would be very few people that you wouldn’t be avoiding. A lot of people have different mental illness. Some people are truly brave and let people help them get better, but a lot of people don’t do this. Granted some mental illnesses aren’t what you typically think of when you hear mental illness, but they still are real. Narcissism is one, someone who thinks that they are so beautiful and perfect, that only their way is right, and everyone else should be avoided or put down. I hope I made my point clear…

  28. Obviously crazy says:

    Ha! The article you wrote makes me feel so good about myself..I had an eating disorder from the age of 7..and am now fine and in med school!!! You are an ignoramus!! You have zero scientific or pshchologal research to back this bullshit article..I pity you because hatred for others is actually a reflection of your own self hatred and pain…get yourself figured out bud;)!!

  29. umm says:

    It’s funny because you say that people with eating disorders just want to play the “victim” when it seems to me that this entire article is an attempt to make you seem like the victim… Just because you may have known someone with an ED, (who apparently broke your heart) who may or may not have been toxic, doesn’t give the right to destroy others. I don’t know anyone with an ED that goes around blabbing about it looking for attention; in fact, they go to great lengths to hide it, especially from those they love.

  30. aneirian says:

    the only thing i would like to say is that this is horrible, horrible stuff. and misogynistic at that, and i’m not even a damn feminist. you should seriously be ashamed of yourself (though, of course you’re not).
    i almost pity you.

  31. Supreme Commander says:

    This great man has helped me influence a friend – one who a female – for the better. All his points hit home and in this short time it was a shock for her but she has made out to be a better person in the end. We all saw her a a glass empty – the world owes me type of personality but when we got to her we changed her personality for the better . Using the above knowledge she is now much happier and has quelled demons from within instead of bringing others down around them. Others above could take note seeing as how they leave empty epithets – bringing nothing new to the conversation.
    I thank Aurini once again.

  32. demon says:

    1. Before trying to analyze other people disorders/mental illness you should try to understand your own. Because yes, take the decision of writing such an article isn’t something normal, and if anorexics are demons full of hatred, so what are you? You’re not analyzing anything you’re just spiting over these people, and why? Because you’re scared of the difference. I’m not going to insult you or anything because all you’re giving to people is pity, and to all of those who agree with you, be ashamed. I do think that be afraid of food is less dreadful than be afraid of people. Life is based on relationships you’re just one more person who picks up people not to be threatened by them.
    You’re scared. And you wanna eradicate what scares you with all your hatred. Doesn’t it remind you of someone? His name was Hitler.
    2. I wish you’ll have a merry christmas with an eating disorder in one of your gifts.
    3. (No need to answer anyway, you did use demons as a word to describe anorexics, and demons are basically scary, so let’s take responsability for your last uselesses words and accept the fact that you’re the one who’s got a problem. I’m really sorry you’re you.)

  33. Aj says:

    I’ve never seen such a blatant disrespect for human life. I tend to be a peaceful person, but this… this fills me with a new rage. How dare you. How dare you insult and belittle these people who are suffering. How dare you deny them comfort, solace, and aid. These people are hurting, and I could give a shit if you don’t believe that Eating Disorders exists. Would you make a post claiming the non-existence of a god and then follow it up by insulting billions of religious people? Save the numbers, this is no different. This is a disgusting post. This is the dirtiest stain on the clothing of humanity.
    “Despite everything, I believe people are really good at heart.”- Anne Frank
    I’ve always had some faith pored into that quote, but I have a hard time believe you are anything but evil.

  34. FUCKYOU says:

    You are just a complete moron, and i hope everyone stays away from YOU for the sake of their mental hygiene

  35. Supreme Commander says:

    To the three ignorant people above who did not add anything to truly counter Aurini I have to ask.
    Isnt being anorexic in a civil society the polar end of being obese? Which the medical world just released as a self inflicted condition? A gained Disease? The best help comes from within hence going out with a person with anorexia is really just putting more flame to a fire. Adding more of a curveball into promoting a body image that is not safe by going out with a women with the condition. Not many men are going to wait for an Obese woman to get skinny just like they wont wait on a woman with anorexia to get fit. Doesnt anyone care for the man in this case. To have to put up with a woman who puts her own body in peril? On purpose?

    This man did it. You can too.

    Dont let your mind tell tricks on you .
    God Bless.

  36. Anagirl says:

    Nobody chooses to have an eating disorder, it isn’t fun, it isn’t a fad diet, this post is absolutely disgusting and implying that having an eating disorder means that a rape accusation is false is disgraceful! The sexism and racism alone is ridiculous, men have eating disorders as well as non white middle class girls!

  37. whorefinder says:

    lol at all the miserable, self-loathing, blame-everyone-else eating disorder broads above.

    Nobody loves you, you are worthless and fat. But even worse, you take out all your problems on everyone else and whine loudly and widely for attention.

  38. Aurini says:


    Aurini: Anorexic girls are whiny attention whores.

    Hero: No we’re not! Let me whine and explain why I deserve your attention.

  39. A. Nonny Mouse says:

    Good -lord-.

    Look, all you crazy people? Yeah, sucks that you’re crazy. A damn shame, really.

    But I don’t owe you -shit-. I have no obligation to expend, no, -waste- my finite time and treasure in this world to help you with whatever the fuck your problem is, or however the fuck it started.

    Not. My. Fucking. Problem.

    So someone pointing out that it’s probably not a good idea to date/marry/deal with your ass… Well, that’s just a public service. Life is hard, get a fucking helmet.

    Oh, and those of you who like to threaten self harm? Fuck you. Remember, Rippy the Razor says it’s ‘down the street’ not ‘across the road’…

  40. Mr. O says:

    So anyone who disagrees with the author is a crazy female with an eating disorder? Thats even more ridiculous than what I just read. White females from money arent the only people who suffer from eating disorders. I can think of many examples that prove your ignorance. You enjoy your little hate filled world where only white rich females have money and they all have the same diagnosis and Ill live in an obvious reality where you are wrong and clearly uneducated.

    -Mr. O

  41. whorefinder says:

    So anyone who disagrees with the author is a crazy female with an eating disorder?
    –Yes. Either literally or figuratively.

    White females from money arent the only people who suffer from eating disorders.
    —Exceptions only prove the rule, fairy.

    I can think of many examples that prove your ignorance.
    –Anecdotal evidence does not disprove the data. I realize that math is racist and sexist and hetero-ist to small-brained little rabbits like you. Your examples, however, are worthless when compared with data.

    You enjoy your little hate filled world
    —Projection is a motherfucker, kid.

    Ill live in an obvious reality where you are wrong
    –denying reality will not make it go away, little one.

    and clearly uneducated
    —Credentialism only works among the warren, little brain.

    Also, rape!

  42. Amy says:

    I can’t believe this. You are all despicable people. I’m here because I found this article, and see if it really was full of horrible people who don’t deserve to be called human. You want these people to die. How can you type these things knowing another human being will take this article and these comments as the reason to kill themselves? Are you so naive as to think EDs don’t exist? That maybe we will do whatever it takes do be BEAUTIFUL AND LOVED AND HAPPY and you just dismiss us like we aren’t worthy of it. Like we’re scum. You de-humanize us in the eyes of our peers and ourselves. So many people have eating disorders, maybe your children or your siblings, imagine if they just died. We are human, we deserve a chance at happiness. At LIFE.

  43. Aurini says:

    “That maybe we will do whatever it takes do be BEAUTIFUL AND LOVED AND HAPPY”

    Why do I get the impression that “whatever it takes” might involve sexual mutilation of the man she’s with?

    Sorry, Amy, you’re Danger Pussy: any Man who cares about morality, his society, and building a healthy relationship, would avoid you like typhoid Mary.

  44. Sarah says:

    I actually agreed with you on the majority of your post, and I am a 20 year old white female with an eating disorder, and a feminist. I also am studying psychology in college. I just wanted to point this out before I continue my post, so other readers who adamantly disagree with you will read this and maybe understand the different points of view.

    I think you made some very valid points, specifically on the issue with mental illness and psychology. I also believe that many mental illnesses are caused by something that is lacking or insufficient in the brain. I also believe that many psychologists are sometimes pressured to throw diagnosis’ onto their patients, and without really getting to know their patients or even taking the time to require medical assessments conjunctively, they slap a diagnosis into their file sometimes after only one visit!– And this can really hurt a patient in the futrue, especially if the diagnosis is-god forbid-wrong. This is one of the main reasons I will never go into Clinical Psychology, I am more interested in research anyway.

    I also came to realize some things about myself through your post. A lot of the things you said about people with eating disorders is true, and I think why there are so many people so quick to go on the defense here about that is because it is hard to accept that your problem (and/or solution–especially with ED’s) lies completely within yourself. So while maybe a person didnt consciously acquire said eating disorder (because it has been found to be genetic and certain neurotransmitters firing or not firing sufficiently can be a trigger) they most certainly can be their own solution. I think this specifically was a nail on the head:

    It’s a passive-aggressive attack on those whom the Suicide wants to feel love from; their parents, the peers who are bullying them, it’s a dumping of bad karma on “those who’ve done me wrong.” In most cases there are other solutions – learning better coping techniques, standing up to bullies, and owning up to the things you did to get bullied in the first place – but rather than confronting the problems within themselves, they embrace the model of the victim, and project all their blame onto the outside world. Suicide is the perfect embrace of the victim mentality, refusing to take responsibility for anything, and laying your own self-destruction at the feet of those around you.

    …just because I know in my case, I can specifically relate to this. Most people, I believe, would not want to admit to this, but I dont really care because this is the internet and if you cant own up to your problems you will never be able to solve them. Most ED individuals just want to be validated, they want to know that what they are doing to themselves is acknowledged and will often project their feelings onto their significant others: “I’m killing myself, why dont you care!”, and so they get caught up in always being the victim, always being coddled, never having to live up to their problems. Thats another thing about mental illness. When does it stop becoming a mental illness and start becoming just an excuse?

    This is one of the reasons I am not in a relationship right now. I dont see how I could be in a equal relationship with my mindset as it is, when you get down to it, dating someone with an eating disorder is just really hard. I dont like the way you worded that in your post, but it does hold some validity. It will always be about the person with the eating disorder and their constant need for approval from everyone. At least while they are sick. Once they recover, that is a whole different aspect. I’m not saying someone with an ED can not date while they are still sick, I am just saying that if you care about your partner you would take the initiative to admit you have a problem that you need to fix it if you want to have a healthy relationship, because healthy relationships are not one sided. I am also not saying that you shouldnt date a person just because they have an ED either.

    Another point I wanted to talk about: paying for the bulimic’s healthcare. I understand your viewpoint on this. The matter is not black or white, its grey, and thats why I understand why some people would be adamantly against it. For example, should we have to pay for morbidly obese patients to get gastric bypass? Some think we should not, others think that we should because it is a disease, just like bulimia, and the patient can not help it. This is one of the things I dont have a direct answer to. WIth gastric bypass, or inpatient treatment for anorexia, their is common ground: the patient has to want to get better. The obese person will have to continue to change their diet and lifestyle so as not to gain all the weight back and the anorexic will have to accept that the body needs food, and food should not be used to cover the emotional problems he/she is hiding underneath.

    So while I dont like the way you put a LOT of things in your post, wording wise, I still agree with a majority of this post. BUT, the generalization that ALL people with eating disorders have BPD is kind of hasty. I do believe that a lot of individuals with eating disorders have changing emotions/moods frequently, but this is mainly because they arent getting enough to eat half the time (which, hey whadoya know causes cognitive decline and mood swings) and are constantly seeking validation and approval from people who dont give a shit (most of the time–this is just my opinion). So most, if not all, of those suffering from ED’s, when they recover they will most likely not show symptoms of BPD anymore, because a big cause of that could just be getting accurate nutrition, again my opinion.

    Okay this is longer than I expected it to be, may not even be clearly written, whatever, take it for what is it.

  45. Mr. O says:

    You can hide behind name calling all you want “whorefinder” but all it does is make you look immature. ;)

  46. Molly says:

    To the people (like me) who strongly disagree with the content in this article:
    1. This man does not deserve the energy of your hatred. He, most likely, has no job, no girlfriend, no success in his life, and nothing better to do than write shitty books that no one will need. He is so uncomfortable with himself that he has to write extremely offensive articles and publish them on the Internet, so he can get thousands of comments and attention.

    2. Remember–he’s a nobody. Not a doctor, not a scientist, probably not even someone with a high school degree. Eating disorders are illnesses, they’re in the DSM-IV. No one who matters argues their legitimacy.

    3. To all of you struggling, I’ve been there. Ignore assholes like this and keep living your goddamn life. You deserve it.

  47. whorefinder says:

    Poor Mr. O: hiding behind name calling with his small, limp penis.


  48. Anonymous says:

    Alright well I’m too fucking pissed off to make a rational comment right now, but as someone who has suffered from an eating disorder and met so many people in the process, this post is utter horseshit. What you’ve described is some sort of sociopathic bitch, not a person with an eating disorder. I’ve seen plenty of eating disordered women, in healthy, loving relationships. I’m not one for violence, but may you all be shot in the fucking heads.

  49. Samara says:

    Hey, author, I think you run the risk of sounding prejudiced. Why jump to unfair conclusions about every single person who has an ED?

  50. Lily says:

    As a girl currently suffering from an eating disorder, I can tell you that about 90% of this is bullshit. I’ve been going through this for several years and despite the fact that I live at home, no one in my family knows; I have done everything in my power to NOT attract attention. My sister is a notorious attention-seeker (though doesn’t have an eating disorder) and my biggest fear is becoming like her.

    I understand that there are people in this world who are starving, who are going to die because they can’t afford food. And I KNOW that I should be grateful for what I have, for the fact that I have enough. But can you imagine how miserable you would have to be, how much you would have to hate yourself, to force yourself not to eat even though you could? And, though I don’t purge, throwing up is seriously unpleasant. Can you imagine being so unhappy that you intentionally put your body through that?

    It’s not about attention, and telling us that we’re psychotic self-pitying monsters doesn’t help anyone.

  51. dann00 says:

    I feel bad for this man’s future daughter. How repulsive that you unintelligently belittle a womn with an eating disorder. I find it quite disturbing you don’t mention the 10% of men that suffer eating disorders too. Would I like to point out the men who inject themselves with steroids in the name of body image? You’re an incredibly vain and vindictive excuse of a human shell. Before you spew more complete shit from your posts, take a good look at yourself. Psychology tells me these young girls are suffering, not just women. Children. Little girls or boys as young as 8, if not younger. Since we’re being sexist, isn’t it your job as a man to feed your children and keep them healthy and safe. I mean, you shouldn’t be on your lazy ass postimg, but pproviding? Or maybe you’re all single be because no one likes a disrespectful man bitch? This goes for all the degenerative men commenting as well. I’m glad I’ll be working in pediatrics as a nurse because I’d be disgusted helping you vile men.

  52. Rebecca says:

    I’m sorry but on what qualifications are you basing these opinions? If I date someone with cancer, does that make me a radiation oncologist? Or better yet, If I date someone who, unlike you, has a brain, does that make me a neurologist? You claim that illness is due to some obvious moral failure on the part of the sufferer, yet what of naturally occurring disease? Would you look at a 3 year old with childhood leukemia and deem them to be somehow defective, as if they had asked for their devastating illness only to miss out on school, steal the attention away from their other siblings, and be showered with teddy bears and “get well soon” balloons? I should hope not. I’d invite you to look at eating disorders (and other mental illness) as a cancer of the mind, because that’s very much what they are, and then I’d invite you to look in the mirror and examine the REAL attention-seeking, woe-is-me “victim” here.

  53. Supreme Commander says:

    Sustained Over eating / Obesity in the 1st World- Self Inflicted wound.
    Under eating / Anorexic in the 1st World – Self Inflicted.
    I can not date people who do harm to themselves. The above can be prevented. People must seek counsel . Not go look out for dates.
    I can deal with people with Cancer for they are going through something they did not bring upon themselves. This is key that people dont seem to understand.
    Cancer is not naturally occurring.
    Coming from a Non Obese Normal Male.

  54. Ske says:

    This is such utter nonsense. I’ve battled anorexia for a couple of years, you fail to realize that there are physiological symptoms that accompany eating disorders. Try enjoying normal meals when after every meal you have a panic attack, feel your heart racing, hear self-destructive voices in your head, get nauseated, feel physically sick, feel like a monster because there is a sudden increase of heavy guilt on you. Sure I ‘chose’ to be a monster defined by numbers, obsessively calculating my intake, the intake of others, my weight, my width. Forcing myself to run miles daily without eating, even after an already exhausting day. Not being able to get through a meal above 200 calories without feeling like I just murdered someone, I mean the guilt in some of our conscience is that heavy. It’s very helpful that you refer to us as monsters and a ‘plague’ to be avoided, not sure if you realize that it’s exactly how many of us view ourselves. When I developed an eating disorder, I didn’t speak a word about it, I erased my social contacts, my friendships, distanced myself from my family, stopped even trying to be in a relationship. I didn’t even care about relationships, I couldn’t bring myself to, all I cared about anymore was those numbers, those obsessive habits that took over my life. You make it sound like we do it ‘for others’ or for attention. It was never about anyone else and I didn’t even realize I was sick at first. That’s what it is, a sickness. It was only when I was rushed to the hospital in an ambulance after my body eventually gave up, that I began to realize how this illness had manifested itself deep in my head and that I needed to seek medical help, slowly I’ve gotten better and am proud that I am leaving some traits behind and my body is growing stronger again. This article did nothing but triggered more feelings of guilt and regret in me, but I guess your intention was to make us feel (even more) horrible about ourselves.

  55. Chelsey says:

    This article reeks of ignorance and intolerance in the highest form: generalization. How dare you generalize every woman who has ever faced this terrible symptom in your limited understanding. Have you ever sat down and talked with someone who suffers from bulimia? Obviously not enough if you actually believe this garbage. They women who live with this symptom live in constant fear of meals, but can’t escape the necessity of eating. Can you imagine the anxiety they live with? You can live without a cigarette, that addiction can be broken, albeit with difficulty. What do you do when your addiction is necessary for life?! Your freedom of speech gives you the right to publish this garbage, but your obviously stunted reason should have told you otherwise. These girls already have enough to go through, and now you are telling the world they are evil and insane. Please educate yourself before posting your inane opinions for the consumption of other people who might mindlessly follow your ideas.

  56. Livvi says:

    I don’t know who you think you are making assumptions so broadly like that but you are wrong. I have an eating disorder. I keep it to myself. I keep myself alive for everyone around me and I keep it to myself for everyone around me. Never once have I let anyone know and never ever will I let anyone know, because it is all my doing to myself. I would NEVER, I repeat NEVER, poke a hole in a condom or give you the silent treatment when you took me on vacation, not would I lie cheat or steal in any way that would hurt someone. I would never do any of that because it’s been done I me, and I wholly blame myself for that, and I would never want anyone to feel the way I’ve felt when someone does something like that to me. So get off your high horse over there and realize that people are different and people can surprise you and you should not judge someone based on whether or not they have an eating disorder or they self harm or they have tried to kill themselves because I swear to god you do not know how much self hatred and pain from the world it takes to put that razor to your skin or force yourself to vomit quietly so as not to wake anyone and how going through something like that makes you only never want anyone else to feel the same. The only reason people with these problems let them out and tell people in my experience is because they want to help other people struggling so that the ones struggling don’t feel as alone as they did when they went through that. So ya, I realize some people are like that, but you have to actually get to know them and not avoid them like they are made of rat poison.

  57. Gene says:

    I’ve dated many “normal” women and an ED girl, and the ED girl was by far the most thoughtful and nicest person I ever dated. I guess her being a nurse helps that.

    What I did notice though was that she was full of excuses for many things and saw the doctor for many different reasons. At 26, I just don’t get it. I myself rarely saw the doctor at that age and still don’t. I think she was lazy too..she worried and complained about her weight when she was above her baseline yet didn’t seem serious about taking healthy steps towards attaining her goal.

    So, yea..dating a girl with an ED can be bad in some ways, but they are not necessarily destructive towards other people. I never got that sense at all.

  58. J says:

    What do they put in your water over there in the states. Cyanide? Meth? Arsenic? You are so mind-numbingly stupid. And sexist. And illiterate. Why do you think you are important enough to write (I’d say essay but that might be stretching it) ramblings on something you a) know nothing about and b) nobody cares about what you know nothing about. You are a tiny little ant. Just as important and just as forgettable. Sorry, what were you banging on about again……..

  59. Em says:

    There’s nothing enjoyable about throwing up or starving yourself. So why would anyone CHOOSE to have an eating disorder. It is a mental illness. Psychologists are professionals. You are a dickhead.

    Also: females aren’t the only ones who suffer from this disease.

  60. Aurini says:

    >Why would anyone choose to have this?
    >It is a mental illness.

    See how you answered your own question there? Why does a BPD choose to cut herself for attention? Because she’s mentally ill. Stay the hell away from that, and let the professionals handle the rabid beast.

  61. Freaking ed sufferer who is nothing you described you ass says:

    I’ll say only this. FUCK YOU! (and middle finger attached*)

  62. Wtf says:

    The fact of the matter is: you are not a doctor. You are not a mental health professional with unbiased experience and extensive knowledge on eating disorders or any mental illness for that matter. Criticize DSM all you want but your basis for your pitiful opinions is on personal experience alone and probably google. If you want to stigmatize an entire population of people with a mental illness because someone gave you a hard time then I suggest you keep your uneducated opinions to yourself. Why anyone takes you seriously enough to even consider your unfounded opinions is beyond me. Why not take into consideration the opinion of someone who has studied mental illness for years and can back their information up with facts?
    “Self-destructive people will always try and destroy those around them.” Think about that for a little while. Your own words. Then consider how destructive it is to call someone (a large quantity of complete strangers), who has never wronged you in any way, a monster/demon because they have an illness. Eating Disorders have the highest fatality rate of ANY mental illness. So how is it that a perfectly healthy individual would go to such extensive lengths to “seek attention”. Normal people don’t want to die. And likening an eating disorder to histrionic disorder is laughable considering that they are separate mental illnesses with different diagnoses. I am sorry I ever stumbled across this article. Have fun avoiding “toxic” people because it would seem to me that you are one. And you know what they say about “birds of a feather”.

  63. DumbestArticleIveEverRead says:

    This article is by far the dumbest article I think I’ve ever read. Ignorant. That’s all I can say. I will admit,I have been desctructive towards people- in terms of being mean. That’s as far as it goes. I say some pretty hurtful mean things when I’m upset. This probably has to do with self-love, or the sense of feeling loved. However, when I LOVE someone, I’m just like ever other woman. I love with my all! I am a good person, I am still learning. I am on my journey to get myself help. But by writing articles like this, realize you are affecting someone’s life. This is mean! Who are you even to be writing about something you blatantly don’t understand? It’s no fun, it’s not like we want to go and do these things to ourselves. Realize there is a lot of socital pressures and other factors that come into play. For example, myself – I had an ex boyfriend and my first love that I was with for 7 years who cheated on me. Each person has a trigger, or some traumatic event that happens typically. It’s not like we woke up one day and thought, “Gee. I’d love to have an eating disorder.”

    This is absolutely ridiculous and, although I’m not going to stoop to your level, realize your words above are mean.

  64. Autumn says:

    You are a fucked up individual

  65. Mark says:

    This started off so well. And went so far downhill. No, you should stereotype, no you shouldn’t write so surely about something you haven’t experienced, and yes you’re by and large incorrect.
    But even if you were correct, people with mental disorders are still people and so should they not be helped? Should we not do what we can to remove suffering and make them happy? There’s plenty of evidence of this being possible. I do not have an eating disorder and I do not pretend to understand what it feels like or how it works. But Whatever you believe about the nature of mental disorder, to say that people suffering should be ignored or abandoned – whether they’re in ‘real’ poverty or just sprained an ankle – is ludicrous, and frankly shocking

  66. Heather says:

    This is by far one of the most stupid things I’ve ever read and I say stupid because clearly you know nothing about eating disorder at or even what a mental illness is and how people have to deal with it every day. You’re a moron, seriously. Pick a book. Educate yourself and maybe just maybe you could be a little bit less stupid and ignorant. Ass hole. Because people like you tons of teens and kids are struggling with serious mental disorders and don’t get any help on time because of the misconception of ED nowadays. Seriously all of you people read, study. Being stupid is an option.

  67. Peter says:

    I dated a girl with an eating disorder. I was not in a good place in my life, but I was in love with her and wanted to help her. She gave me this intense feeling that she wanted compassion and love. After a while, it translated into a feeling that she wanted me to just watch her suffer. Whereas I was in a bad place in life, and making strides to recover, she was in a bad place, and seeking to punish herself. She had witnessed terrible things in her past, that would harm any person. She can’t be blamed for her trauma. On the same token, she had this name “bulimia” that said she was a victim of a real-life disease, floating around in her body, harming her. This is absurd. This was an anchor for her to stay locked into the morbid, self-hating state of mind that had understandably developed for her. People who are depressed often don’t eat, or become physically sickly. The names are an excuse handed over to an already sick person, making them cling to their state, instead of get out of it.

  68. anon says:

    go fuck yourself.
    Words cannot sum up the disgust i have for you, you horrible, vile, awful, intolerant human being.

  69. El says:

    I had an ED.
    I never blamed anyone but myself.
    Instead of whatever I was supposed to do, when life went upside down I fell down the rabbit hole of finding my one constant in the storm as controlling weight and food. It was mine and no one could take it from me. That’s it.
    I never felt like a victim as it made me feel in control.
    I never wanted anyone to know what was going on so no one in my family, friends or relationships knew.
    The two serious relationships I had in that time were great. We never fought, I never wanted saved (conversely I actually just wanted independence), I just wanted someone to laugh with.
    I never felt that the world was against me. I never wanted anyone to fuss over me. Or watch me suffer. Any inner turmoil was kept inside and so the only “complaint” I ever got in relationships was being difficult to read or not letting them too close.

    I’m not arguing, I just wanted to add my experience to the mix. If any guy tried to do what you said all women with EDs wanted a man to do, I would have laughed in their face and told them to back off.

  70. I’m going to go out on a limb here: With catch phrases like “Psychology is a pseudo science” and going on and on about how people with eating disorders can simply shut up and eat, you are coming off as a clueless drone of Scientology.

  71. Fernando says:

    This article is complete bullshit.
    How the hell do you people function with such ignorance?
    I’m a male, and I have an eating disorder, but I don’t go around begging for sympathy!
    Really, now. I make damn sure that no one finds out about my ED to avoid ignorant ridicule from such uncultured swines.
    No, also, it’s not our choice.
    Do you people not think?
    Those girls with EDs that some of you misogynistic men have dated didn’t DESERVE those girls.
    Those fucking girls were brave.
    You really think having an ED is fun and just made up?
    It’s not.
    Do you people not read?
    Do you people not comprehend science and brain function?

  72. Erin says:

    Keep in mind that people with eating disorders can become very good at hiding their problems, and you probably won’t know about it until she’s already started sleeping with you, sees this hideous trash of an ‘article’, and pokes holes in your dick, or worse.

    It would be wise to just stop dating women if you’re worried about monsters.
    It would be beneficial to all involved! :)

  73. ECS says:

    I’m dating a recovering bullemic who has been clean for a little over two years now. She is very sweet and goes out of her way to do nice things for me.

    I don’t notice any BPD, but I do kind of notice the victim mentality. She hurt her head over a year ago and got a concussion and used that as an excuse to not do things for over a year. I can understand that it’s sometimes pretty serious but to constantly post facebook updates about it and see a doctor every week for a year straight because you hit your head seems a little extreme for me.

    I for one refuse to be a victim. She sees a psychologist every week and is prescribed to different pills. I just don’t find it attractive.

    She also uses her past bullemia as an excuse not to workout in fear that it will trigger it again. I guess that makes some sense but to avoid the gym altogether? I started going to the gym ALOT to try and lead by example, because she is a little overweight and could use the trip. I just don’t know how to tell her that it bothers given the fact that she is so sensitive about her body. Now she wants to go to the beach but to be honest I’m kind of embarrassed to go. I’ve spent $300 a month on personal training for the last 5 months and nearly have a 6 pack and she is still overweight..it just doesn’t seem fair to me.

    Basically I’m caught between trying to not be a dick and being true to myself and my desires. I don’t know what to do at this point.

    If this relationship doesn’t work out, I don’t think I will ever date someone with an ED ever again.

  74. L.S R. says:

    I just want to say thank you and God bless you to those of you who have stood up against these stupid and evil haters. this article is ludicrous. im not borderline lmao I am a highly sensitive person. and yet also an ENTJ. go google that and notice how I just destroyed your entire (totally shitty) thesis of ermergherddd people with eating disorders are the worst types of girls. lol im glad you think that. because youre trash. and you disgust me. the worst types of girls are the crazy slutty bitches who are narcissistic cheating liars and who usually arent very smart (meaning they love themselves–the total opposite of eating disorders) .

    ill go as far as to assert that women with eating disorders are the most sane and intelligent women you will ever meet. it is that we are actually surprisingly sane in a world full of insane people such as the miserable peon who wrote this moronic page and all the other little lemmings (all of whom utterly lack virtue and integrity and are the sort of heteronymous moral agents who dont even understand themselves–let alone anyone else). so, I say lets take the high road.

    lets forgive them. and hope that they wake the fuck up before it’s too late.

    oh, and it doesnt really matter but I am eligible for mensa membership and have a genius iq. I am 23. and still in school. im not borderline nor am I bipolar lulz. I avoid people like that. just being honest 0.0 im a fairly well adjusted young lady. you big tough “for amurika” men are classless uneducated swine. go read platos dialogues please like holy shit. im honestly trying so hard not to try and fuck with you douches. come at me bru. wanna try to debate with me? any takers?? come on you scrubs: I fucking dare you. make my day. lol

    people with eating disorders very rarely have personality disoders. actually. lol along with being anorexic (both restricting and purging subtype) I have anxiety and panic attacks. and im somewhat perfectionistic. anyway. none of the people throwing mud at eating disorders are smart or aware as a sociopath (or as nice lol). since they are vapid they are more likely narcissists. and it makes sense theyre talking about bpd

  75. L.S R. says:

    oh and. btw my closest friends are males. real men who are polite, kind, gentlemanly, and chivalrous. how dare you belittle something that you know absolutely nothing about. God help you. and all of us. I am washing my hands of thus senselessness.

  76. Amused. says:

    I find It funny that you would say such things to label ALL girls who have eating disorders… when in reality, you know hardly anything. This post made me sick to my stomach. Most of us are the type to “poke holes in condoms” that would end up with us being pregnant, then we gain weight. Nah. I’m good. We’re also not monsters. Or mean. Or pathetic. I’m friends with everyone I meet, and I’ve been told multiple times I’m the sweetest girl that person has met. We also don’t blame everything on our “man.” In all reality, I always think I’m the one who did something wrong. We’re not toxic either. Every girl with an eating disorder I’ve met has been extremely Nice and supportive. Do you realize how many girls (and guys) we turn to healthy methods to lose weight because we don’t want them going through what we are? I don’t know where you got your screwed up view of us, but you need to re-evaluate It. Sorry if some girl with an eating disorder screwed you over, but that’s not our fault. That’d be like saying all gun owners are gonna go out and shoot someone. Don’t be prejudice. Against us all when we aren’t all like that. Thanks!

  77. Erin says:

    You, sir, are a douchebag. :)

  78. mavery mennes says:

    eating disorders are real
    they ruin your life and others life’s
    they got you thinking that your fat and you believe it
    I used to struggle with one and im glad I got rid of it because I almost forgot what it was life to live a normal life with no worries about looking at the ingredients of the thing you were about to eat because you think people see you different and they do but with eating disorders you think everyone including yourself is saying your fat and overweight when your just struggling to
    “fit in” with everyone

  79. Anonymous says:

    I simply cannot believe this piece of garbage! Bulimics for a start are not found just in N. America. Nor do we try or want to destroy everyone close to us. Yes Eds are a form of self harm in a way but it’s directed in one direction. Ourselves. Before you go on writing about things you obviously do not understand maybe you should take a good look at yourself! With the ignorance and arrogance and small mindness shining through this article I most definitely would not want to date you Mr Man. _ A recovered bulimic.

  80. Natalie says:

    I simply cannot believe this piece of garbage! Bulimics for a start are not found just in N. America. Nor do we try or want to destroy everyone close to us. Yes Eds are a form of self harm in a way but it’s directed in one direction. Ourselves. Before you go on writing about things you obviously do not understand maybe you should take a good look at yourself! With the ignorance and arrogance and small mindness shining through this article I most definitely would not want to date you Mr Man. _ A recovered bulimic.

  81. “The sort of girl who has an eating disorder is the sort of girl who’ll poke holes in the condoms, who’ll file a false rape accusation, who’ll start an argument the night before you go to a job interview, and who’ll give you the silent treatment when you take her on vacation.”

    Hilarious! I’ve really got to remember this quote. I’m sure I’ll use it in the future. This can be so true.

  82. Anonymous says:

    I cannot believe how sick and ignorant people like you can be. If you knew anything about eating disorders than you would understand how uneducated you sound in this post.

  83. LolaCooper says:

    I’ve been dating this 33yr old who suffers from bulimia, hepatitis C, former drug user and recent alcoholic. Her story is sad. Parents divorced young, mother had a revolving door with men, father ignored them etc. She lost her virginity at 13, dated a 32yr old when she was 15, slept around like not other etc. She has a great caring side to her, but over the last month it felt like walking on eggshells. Anytime we have a disagreement, she’ll ignore me to piss me off so I contact her (that one is an insecurity issue of mine….rejection/detachment issues). However, she played on that ruthlessly.
    This past Sunday, August 23rd, I purchased for her 4 nice gifts only to have her argue with me 2.5hrs later at a restaurant because I didnt hold her hand while we were inside. As soon as I opened up my mouth….she said….let’s go, I don’t want to spend my bday like this. Very passive agressive, and my fault for teaching to deal with me that way. Anyways, she’s a mess and hasn’t contacted me since. She dropped me home like tuesday’s trash and kept the gifts. This is a 33yr old woman named — —, living in —, MI. Please stay away should any of you come in contact with her. On top of it all, she is bulimic! She constantly throws up. She’s not fat, but because she’s only 5’3, she naturally has bigger thighs, so I imagine that bothers her.
    I won’t lie that its not hurting me but my family and friends tell me just be glad she’s gone and you don’t have to reproduce with someone like that. All honesty, woman like this shouldn’t become mom’s. I’m sorry if that hurts some of you, but it’s the honest truth.
    At the end, its my fault for going out of my comfort zone and dating someone with such a horrific past that i felt uncomfortable with from get go! Lesson learned i hope………..

    Ed: I removed her name; publishing it here is a liability, to both you and me. Glad to hear you got out of a toxic relationship, though. Remember: people treat you the way you let them treat you. Demand better for yourself in the future.

  84. Anonymous says:

    This made me cry… So incredibly hurtful

  85. Fuck this dick says:

    “What absolute bunk; if you think that this is how mental disorders work, then you probably think that the depictions of LSD trips in movies are literal depictions of what you see after dropping acid.”

    Laughed out loud. If you think this is how mental illness and addiction work than you’re ON acid, and having a pretty confusing trip apparently. It’s your reality check not mine though, so good luck with that bud.

    its not eating disorders that are based on pseudo science, it’s your delusional gross excuse for an opinion. These women are suffering a complex disease you will never understand until the day that you die–not because it’s unmitigateably complex when you get to the root (this is a disorder of love; love of the self and the fear of messy emotions we can’t express, of which women can be effected as easily as men. That’s right, big guy, men you know could easily suffer the same mental illness you construe as feminine and weakness) but because you clearly have low emotional (and general) intelligence let’s just break out down:

    Eating disorders are life threatening and nothing to make fun of. They effect not only western culture, but have been recorded throughout history in various cultures. This is not new to the world and western culture is just a vessel for fostering the toxic environments that manifest negative self images that can cause any VARIETY of addiction and guilt. Only a heartless brat of a living creature would choose such a cheap shot at the confidence of people, particularly women already under siege and pressure.

    I’m damn well certain I’d kiss a woman with bulimia before you…not because it’s a hard choice (her mouth is much, much cleaner) despite the stigmatizing crap you would like to convince us of. Plus I’d say she deserves a little love that people like you want to make her believe she’s not worthy of.

    To all of you reading this with racing minds, crying, feeling sick and hurt…smile, you strong soul. Men like this are not WORTH the world losing your depth, beauty, and charm waiting inside of you to be discovered by someone willing to try and care and listen. ..the men who care that are out there waiting to wake up next to your healthy, happy, smiling face someday knowing a flower has blossomed and they’re so LUCKY to be there.

    And if they knew fuck boys like THIS ^ managed to make you feel like less than that…it’s unacceptable. If I can make you smile through those tears, I hope that’s possible. It’s the least I can do and say after how long you’ve been silently living in pain. This idiot doesn’t know. But I know. And that person knows, and your loved ones, and you, and a lot of other people who have loved ones suffering this know, you deserve love, care, compassion, and understanding. And it would be a tragedy if people like this added to the lack of love you are feeling inside. Remember, someone out there is waiting to be there when you need them to say this when you’re crying over nasty blogs. Let me just be the place filler until they get there.

  86. InflatedEgo says:

    Strategist – funny. Author – anyone can be these days. Film maker – see note on Strategist. Supporter – of pretend land. All very funny. You brightened my day with your strategic intellect. I wish I could go through life in imaginary land. By the way, I think someone is in your backyard watching you. Or, maybe you’re just a little paranoid, apocalyptic freak. Maybe you should write a book about all the eating disorder girls strategically aligning to attack you while you are attending post-apocalyptic event supporting your dark enlightenment.

  87. Morganne says:

    This entire article is so abhorrently ignorant it’s sad… But when I saw the author it kind of explained it all. In no way shape or form does this person understand anything about mental illness or eating disorders. You do realize men also suffer from mental illness and eating disorders right?Bulimia is only known in the United States? What planet are you living on? As someone who suffers from mental illness and struggles with disordered eating and self harm, no one chooses to be this way. No spiteful vendetta is worth feeling this way and hurting yourself every day. No one chooses to wake up feeling horrible or fall asleep crying at night. Self harm becomes an addiction and usually stems from a mindset of low self worth and a feeling of undeserving. You feel worthless and scared all the time… And it’s not to spite anyone. I’m so tired of society’s idea that mental illness and self harm is all for attention. People make someone else’s suffering all about them instead of being supportive and understanding. Its detrimental and damaging and extremely selfish. I understand why being with someone with one of these disorders can be difficult and not something that anyone wants to deal with… But this article is nothing but misogynistic, victim blaming nonsense. I really hope you never get into a relationship with someone with an ED or mental illness… For their sake.

  88. Katherine says:

    Hi Dumbasses. I don’t really know where to start. So I’ve has an eating disorder for years. I hid it from everyone for years. I do not want my family or friends to hurt. I want them to be happy. What you failed to mention in your article is that eating disorders go so far beyond being skinny. Power, control (not over other people, but trying to control your own life) I have tried to commit suicide twice. Not because I want people to feel bad, but quite the opposite. I figured they would honestly be better without me. I DO blame myself for this even though I know it is not my fault. It is nobody’s fault. Obviously there are incidents which worsen the situation. Also some statistics for you. Less than 2% of women who have filed charges for rape are false. Also contrary to your article, eating disorders do NOT DISCRIMINATE. Doesn’t matter your race, gender, nationality, etc. It is a real disease. It is not defined by food. Alcoholism, drug addicts, eating disorders, codependency, etc. are all manifestations of your inside. This is a completely scientifically inaccurate article. Most likely in the course of your life, someone close to you will have an eating disorder. You will see first hand the devastating effects on that person. It will break your heart, because it is not a lie. This is far more than just science. Although if you do want to be right, then you should do a little more research. Genetics matter. Depression and other disorders are often the effect of wiring in your brain that is messed up. I have seen more pain and suffering than any of you will ever see. Not just from myself though. I have been in treatment with so many people. It is heart wrenching to be surrounded by people who are kind and loving, yet they despise themselves so much. Get over yourself you fucking shit. This is not about you. You will meet someone with an eating disorder. They aren’t trying to manipulate you. You are honestly not related. You are just an asshole who thinks that he knows everything about something that he has no experience with at all.

  89. Girly says:

    The amount of misogyny on this post and in the responses has me laughing silently into my tea. I suggest all of you guys visit some therapists and get to grips with your mommy issues. Girls with eating disorders aren’t the issue – your insecurity over your dick sizes is.

    I’d also like to point out that in this post, men with eating disorders haven’t been addressed. I guess when it’s a MAN suffering from an eating disorder, it’s suddenly real, yeah? Only girls can be manipulative, hmm?

    I guess I won’t get any responses because you’ll all be too busy using your hands for something else because none of y’all are getting laid tonight lmao.

  90. Jambo says:

    Oh please, every post agreeing with this article is written by the author himself.

  91. justanotherstereotype says:

    I, like many others posting here, have an eating disorder. And I can tell you that whatever “pseudoscience” you chose to “delve in to” is absolutely and atrociously wrong. More than that, this is hurtful to anyone suffering from a mental illness. Not because we have “daddy issues,” or want your attention. Nope. You can keep your ego to yourself thanks. Eating disorders have been shown to have a genetic component- and yes this is noticeable across different cultures! (By the way, bulimia only in one region??! Dude get your fucking facts straight, like c’mon that’s just pathetic).
    But you know what, believe what you want, but I just hope you never have kids because you are going to fuck them up something awful.
    To anyone reading this article, please know that those with eating disorders are people to. We do not want to hurt you. We do not want to blame you for these issues. We know that they are not your fault. But they aren’t really ours either. This is not an attempt to say we can’t help ourselves, or that we can’t change because it’s not in our control. No, this is not true. We can get better and we can change, but sometimes we need someone to believe in us too. Stop talking hurtfully about what you don’t understand. Please.

  92. Hannah says:

    This article is misinformed, ignorant and disgusting. Generalising eating disorders is dangerous and insulting, and the conclusion that it’s just based around body image and not eating is ludicrous. It is a deadly mental health issue that does not discriminate; women get it, men get it. You can be a model or a lawyer, you can be old or young. And to draw the conclusion that we who have eating disorders would poke holes in condoms or falsely accuse someone of rape is insulting and too illogical to even argue. I suggest you research your facts before drawing such ridiculous, damaging conclusions about mental health issues.

  93. JayD says:

    To the author who penned this blog: You really should show more compassion and understanding about people with ED’s as they are a very serious issue. ED’s can wreak havoc on people who suffer from this affliction and are very destructive, but they can be put into remission successfully with the right treatment and therapy. ED’s are a terrible affliction and are very destructive to people on so many levels, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. People who have ED’s usually have some serious mental problems. ED’s are the cause of more deaths than any other psychiatric-mental disorder. Hence, ED’s are a very serious matter. Sometimes there are early childhood traumas with dysfunctional families that underlie ED’s. Having said that, people with eating disorders need to take more personal responsibility-personal accountability for their ED’s, seek out therapy and treatment(s), and not play the victimization card and blame others for their ED.

    You did engage in logical fallacy and ad hominem attacks towards women and made some broad sweeping false generalizations about women with ED’s. FYI: Eating disorders are not gender-specific. Men and women equally share the affliction of ED’s. Data for ED’s are skewed because women tend to be more vocal and demonstrative about ED’s than men, and are more apt to seek treatment and therapy than are men. This is due to social conditioning as women are more socially conditioned to be expressive about problems, mental disorders, emotional problems, etc., while men are socially conditioned to not admit any of these problems and view admitting having emotional problems, mental problems and ED’s as a sign of weakness. So from this standpoint, women are actually more mentally healthy and mentally stable than men, since they seek treatment and therapy for ED’s, whereas most men do not.

  94. jackie says:

    This very ideology is why some ppl commit suicide or never recover from their very real MENTAL DISORDER

  95. jackie says:

    This very ideology is why so many people commit suicide or never recover from their very real “MENTAL ILLNESS”

  96. Anonymous says:

    guys, I shouldn’t add a post because its better to stop commenting, this guy thrives on attention. When someone acts like him… they have problems they are dealing with. All of you who have suffered from an eating disorder I am sorry you had to see something like what he wrote. I know you are very strong people. Also smart, statistically you are smarter than average. You are intelligent people, men and women, who are coping in the best way you can. I have studied this disease and there is no doubt that there is something horrible that has happened to every one of you, something out of your control, by a third party or circumstance that was not of your doing. You are all survivors, and you are fighting hard. Not everyone is going to be understanding. Soldiers were not understood when they developed PTSD, this sort of thing happens and its horrible, but society is getting better. Actually I knew a female veteran with bulimia. She was a wonderful person, sadly she passed away. This disease is deadly. Some people will come out in a place of judgment, using cognitive distortions like generalizations and black and white thinking. But those are his limitations. You know what you have lived through, and you know how truly wonderful you are (or you may struggle with self love, but those who know you love you and see what you may not). I would date someone who has gone through bulimia or anorexia. They are survivors, and some of the kindest acts I have witnessed come from those I’ve seen in treatment centers. I have seen girls go out of their way to save each other. They are often very empathetic and patient because they know what rough times feels like and when you know what very hard time are like then you are more sensitive to the pain of others. You get gentler. Out of any mental illness, eating disorders have the highest mortality rate statistically. In a way it is similar to hunger strikes done for political reasons. You were being oppressed in your environment and not allowed a voice, and your boundaries were violated. Food is the way you found to express yourself. I am sorry that man had a bad experience, but don’t let him get you down. Know there is nothing wrong with you. You are survivors and you are beautiful.

  97. Who. The. Fuck. Are. You.

    You are literally the most idiotic person alive, you should stop, eating disorders are a choice you little shit, what kind of misogynistic loser are you, you probably so against people with ED’s because you wish you had one you fat fuck. Well guess what? Bitching and moaning about how you hate them isn’t going to do anything, you obviously are some gross 50 year old virgin who has nothing better to do than be a sexist, gross, weak (obviously), stick in the mud. Why don’t you back to jerking off your tiny dick and stop complaining about things you don’t understand? You have no idea the demons that both I and others have experienced from these disorders so back the hell off freak.

  98. not a choice* typooo

  99. humanity is fading says:

    This actually hurts to read. This is extremely offensive to some people and it has many untrue facts. I suffer from anorexia and have for the past 5 years. I have never put it on anyone around me and try my best to stay positive with everyone who surrounds me on a day to day basis. I have never blamed someone in my life for hating myself or me not wanting to eat. It is a disease of the mind that you cant help. They aren’t a choice that you can get rid of when you are satisfied. I would say i wish you would have to suffer through the pain of it all but i would never put this pain on another living soul. When people say they have no sympathy for people with ED’s, that doesn’t faze many. We aren’t looking for your sympathy. We respect you and all your habits and we would appreciate it if you respect us to. We are still human beings and we still have feelings. I feel sorry for those who read this and are hurt by it because I know as I read this article, I was extremely offended

  100. Mirkat says:

    This is so, so hurtful to me. I am a kind, smart person and it tears me up inside that others could judge me so harshly before even knowing me. ‘Joining a victim group’ which I would never call it, is something that you think people want or would feel “special” about?? Eating disorders are one of the top mental illness people feel shame over having and try the hardest to hide. Do you think I like not being able to go out to dinner with friends and date or that I would much rather feel tired and dead than energetic and happy? Please, please educate yourself more by reading credible sources about EDs and other mental illnesses.

  101. Fuckyoudickhead1 says:

    I am successful, enthusiastic, happy, loving, so loving, love everyone before me. Everyone sees this, it’s quantifiable, it’s real. Look at my statements, look at my friends and colleagues. There are numbers there. I have never depended on anyone for anything, nor has anyone (save my parents as a child) paid any medical bills for me, nor do I take drugs of any kind, nor do I ask for help. We would go out and you would be with my knowledge and say I was beautiful, but on the inside, I would feel like nothing. But you would never know. I would love you to your bones and hate myself at the same time. That’s the nature. That’s how this works. You don’t even know me and I was searching for something similar, but not quite the same. Came across this article and read it, like I do everything (very well-read, well-traveled, articulate). You cannot know the pain I feel and you cannot judge me, because you don’t get it. I drink my calories now and work for a multi-million dollar corporation with hundreds of employees beneath me. I don’t need your fucking pity. But to the women out there who have read this and even for a moment regarded yourself with shame: FUCK THIS IDIOT. He is part of the reason that we feel this way, this is EXACTLY our pain, this is our shame, this is why we hide and keep trying to be perfect.
    FUCK PERFECT AND FUCK HIM! You are beautiful as you are, and there are enough pressures, just to make it financially today, socially and otherwise.
    FUCK THIS IDIOT. FUCK HIM. THIS IS HURTFUL AND RUDE. There is no reason to make a person who already feels worthless to feel less worthless.
    Author (don’t give a fuck what your name is): Why don’t you sign up to be a suicide line author and tell them all to kill themselves. You fucking ignorant prick.

  102. Veronica says:

    This is disgusting. I have delt with an eating disorder for many years and I am doing much better. The thing is, I have never, not once blamed my mental health on anyone. Not media, not my boyfriend of 3 years, not my family. It was all just me. My friends never knew until I got to the point were they worried, the only reason my boyfriend found out is through my friends and him studying me. They helped me find help and I delt with it through there. No, nobody paid for me. I did not play the poor me card and have everyone else in my life spend their money. The fact that you are actually ignorant enough to tell us that people with legit eating disorders are toxic pisses me off more than anything. Yes its a free country, yes you can share your thoughts. Think about yourself in an anorexics shoes or better yet, your wife who you didnt know was, even your husband. How about your child? Is your child a toxic money sucker?

  103. Vivian says:

    I have never read something so completely ignorant in my life. Maybe try to actually understand the mindset of these girls instead of calling them attention whores.

  104. Margret Lynn says:

    Wow you’re a moron who has no right to say anything about a person battling a mental illness. You are not a doctor or psychologist and therefore has no idea how a person’s mind works, let alone a person battling an eating disorder. Mental illnesses are just as real as a physical illness like cancer. 20% of people who have anorexia nervosa or bulimia nervosa die from their disease, yes disease. You are an idiot and you are putting more harm into the world than good. You are awful.

  105. lea joseph says:

    I saw someone compare eating disorders to cancer, and i actually started laughing. I want to know how getting cancer-a choice no one makes, is the same as having an ED-a choice made by many. honestly you have no physical or mental component that “doesn’t allow” you to eat. you don’t have to purge, you don’t have to say no to eating, you choose to.
    And I personally think it’s pretty goddamn selfish. real kids die of starvation all the time because they don’t have the money to eat, but these petty rich people starve to fit into a dress. it’s also selfish because people with EDs are so draining to be around, they gag at food and make it impossible to hang out with. they also seem to teeming with self-pity to the point where it gives me a headache. but if you stop being friends with them because of their toxic personality, they blame you for their problems. but no hun I didn’t stick my fingers down your throat or take your food away from you, you did that ALL to yourself.
    I don’t think that CHOOSING not to eat food should be on the same level as depression and other REAL mental illnesses that no one chooses to have. honestly just stop acting like a little annoying bitch and eat the food you’re blessed to have. goodness.
    (and this isn’t to make you feel worthless or bad about yourself, it’s to say stop being a dramatic,self-pitying shit and get the fuck over it. there is nothing stopping you at all)

  106. Ab says:

    My eating problems stemmed from being sexually assaulted as a child coupled with my mother’s eating disorder being thrust upon me at a young age. It became embedded in me. I have tried endlessly to overcome it, but somehow it takes a mental disorder to convince you living in hell is the only way to feel better. You are just another example of the ignorance and self importance that is this generation.

  107. Anzu says:

    Oh my god….I thought the comments would at least be able to bring some justice to redeem the ignorance this article just poisoned my brain with. HA. To any asshole who actually believes a lick of this nonsense, go fuck yourself. I have never felt inclined to actually waste my time commenting on articles, but this is absolute filth and should be removed. Why don’t you actually do some god damned research on eating disordered women? I’m a diagnosed anorectic with bulimic tendencies for seven years now, and there’s nothing that I love more than being alone in a quiet space with no one around. The last thing I want is attention, and same goes for the many of the other women I know suffering from ED’s.
    This post is not only inaccurate, but extremely hurtful. You clearly sound like you have had some experience with getting hurt by someone who just happened to have an ED, but that’s no reason to stigmatize everyone who does. Think twice before making posts like this. You’re hurting lots of people.

  108. L says:

    EDs aren’t a joke. But that’s what you appear to be making them out as by writing this crap..

  109. unluckymissy says:

    What the actual fuck?! Thanks for making me feel about 500000 times fucking worse for something beyond my control right now! What we need is support not this fucking bullshit. I didn’t even read two paragraphs and can see you are a horrible spiteful little person whos the only toxic cunt here! Idgaf when you wrote this you are a disgusting cunt. WHO THE FUCK WOULD CHOOSE TO DO THIS TO THENSELVES?! ITS A MENTAL ILLNESS FFS. “oh hang on im just gunna go put my anorexia on the shelf so i can go and actually have a social life with REAL FRIENDS AND ACTUALLY FUCKING EAT LIKE I WANT TO EVERY DAY!” no it’s not like that! Tbh you can replace eating disorder with paranoid schizophrenia and you’d still sound like the same degenerate cunt you do now. (Triggered and dgaf im pissed at this)

  110. Evian Rosu says:

    I have an eating disorder, and yeah, at first it was a mental thing like ‘OH MY GOD I USE FOOD AND STARVATION AND OVER EXERCISE TO COPE WITH POWERFUL EMOTIONS.” but now it’s more like “Eh… wasn’t able to shake it completely and life is good enough that it’s just a physical thing, and I can’t fall in love anymore, so who cares?” At first I was reading this and I was like “Huh, it must be satire” but then i was like “Even if it is, kind of does make a point, since I lost my ability to be truly sympathetic or empathetic with people…” SO THANK YOU SIR! For being asshole enough to point out the loopholes in my physical ex mental illness! (not sarcasm)

  111. Damian V. says:

    Oh, hey look, a neckbeard. Okay, I’ll explain this in a way that you’ll hopefully understand. :-)
    You judge people without even knowing them, asshat.
    My best friend has an eating disorder because she’s in professional ballet and treated like a whale if she isn’t sickly tiny like them. Even though we talked her out of that school, she still judges herself because others judged her.
    If a child is told they’re ugly all of their life, they will obviously believe it when they’re older because that’s all they know.
    Also, you’re generalizing.
    It’s like calling suicidal people attention whores. Are some? Yeah, but are all? No. And hating on them will just hurt them more.
    Use your brain next time you write. You have a voice, don’t waste it being a moron.

  112. A says:

    did someone hurt you davey

  113. A says:

    Could’ve figured the author would be one of the ugly little dirtstaches in the comments.

    Such experience. So philosophy.

    She should have burned you twice.

  114. Brandy says:

    I don’t even know what to say. But your facts are very wrong! I have an eating disorder and I am none of this! And to say eating disorders only effect certain cultures is also incredibly incorrect. It is seen now a days even in Africa!

    Some days the thought of eating is terrifying. It takes everything in me to eat something, anything. But that doesn’t mean I want to tear others around me down. On the contrary it makes me more understanding of those around me and more willing to listen and figure out what it is they need.

    I would love to know where you get your research from. Eating Disorders, Anorexia Nervosa specifically are the number one most deadly mental disorder, beating cocain use!! Something to take more seriously than this post does. Honestly why would someone choose to starve themselves merely to be skinny. There is always something more to it that is rarely hurting those who hurt you. More likely it is feeling you don’t deserve that food and nourishment.

  115. Anon. says:

    Wow. Lol
    I honestly dont even need to explain myself or my story. Though, I can tell that you probably wouldnt even care by reading this. You sounds like a bitter asshole. Yikes.
    You’re comparing one experience with one person to the whole world. You are such an idiot, and you yourself sound pretty toxic.
    Get over it (and her) and move on with your life. You should also learn how to choose better candidates to date. If anything you say about this girl is true, she just sounds like a toxic person who just so happens to have bulimia.
    I wish I could express how stupid you make yourself look.

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  117. Katarina says:

    Don’t post this bull shit when you don’t know the fucking facts. Women do not see a whale in the mirror but they do not see themselves all the time either. Women with eating disorders have what they have for many different reasons. Mine was because I was in an abusive relationship for three years and I am not putting in the details but my point is shit happens and just because you don’t believe the scientific proof of eating disorders doesn’t mean you get to bash people in for having them. It’s also considered cyber bulling for the hurtful things you say and in-case you are new to the internet you should know that it’s illegal to bully even if it wasn’t to their face so either take the post and comments down or I’ll have the police do it for you :)

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