Living With Snake Eyes
Snake Eyes: what a beautiful way of putting it. I stole the term from that unrepentant Truth Teller Wimminz because it perfectly sums up one of the harshest moral lessons you can learn, a lesson so harsh that most people mistake it for immorality: the Scorched Earth strategy.
This desperate but effectual method of defence can only be executed by the enthusiasm of a people who prefer their independence to their property; or by the rigor of an arbitrary government, which consults the public safety without submitting to their inclinations the liberty of choice.”
~Edward Gibbon, The Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire.
Always be ready to burn it to the ground, salt your own fields, pull the pin, and nuke it from orbit. The Geneva Convention might take a dim view of it, but I hardly consider them to be a moral authority on the matter of war.
It’s a harsh lesson to learn, and utterly terrifying to the r-type mind: Titus was willing to set the entire meadow aflame and condemn the warren to death, rather than to accept the random predation of Celtic coyotes upon his kin.
Hark, wretches! how I mean to martyr you.
This one hand yet is left to cut your throats,
Whilst that Lavinia ‘tween her stumps doth hold
The basin that receives your guilty blood.
You know your mother means to feast with me,
And calls herself Revenge, and thinks me mad:
Hark, villains! I will grind your bones to dust
And with your blood and it I’ll make a paste,
And of the paste a coffin I will rear
And make two pasties of your shameful heads,
And bid that strumpet, your unhallow’d dam,
Like to the earth swallow her own increase.
Make no mistake, it’s a method of last resort; but the alternative is a death by a thousand cuts.
The modern world is characterized by staggered-negotiations, too much love of life, and the freeze-unfreeze stratagem of brainwashing and Cultural Marxism. Just one more compromise, just one more appeasement, just one more tiny hypocrisy – before you know it you’re bent over the barrel, without option or leverage, a slave to callow masters.
My old Sensei called it The Look of the Samurai: when you are fully willing to sacrifice your life in battle, thugs will quake in terror as the spectre of death wafts over their hearts. Their violence is one born out of venality; ego, greed, and cruelty. Yours will be the violence born of righteousness.
Meditation on inevitable death should be performed daily. Every day when one’s body and mind are at peace, one should meditate upon being ripped apart by arrows, rifles, spears and swords, being carried away by surging waves, being thrown into the midst of a great fire, being struck by lightning, being shaken to death by a great earthquake, falling from thousand-foot cliffs, dying of disease or committing seppuku at the death of one’s master. And every day without fail one should consider himself as dead.
Yamamoto Tsunetomo, Hagakure
You cannot negotiate with terrorist; you cannot compromise with evil.
Evil thrives when good men do nothing.
But why do good men do nothing? Cowardice? Certainly. Love of luxury and comfort? Definitely. But the most pernicious cases are where they hold onto the self-image of being a Good Man. This is nothing but Pride masquerading as morality.
Society pats them on the head, “Good dog, here’s a biscuit!” and they call that morality. They crave the love and esteem of their peers, so they self-martyr themselves. They take up the burdens which others have rightly earned by acting against them, and carry the load. Out of sympathy for the sinner, they intervene against natural justice.
This isn’t being a Man. This is being a codependent weakling.
I posted this earlier on another subreddit but it ended up getting removed because of fighting in the comments. I’ll sum up what happened thus far. I met my wife 7 years ago, she was extremely picky when it came to sex. She told me she only has been with 1 other guy before. She would never give a blow job, only would do certain positions and found almost every sex act degrading. I was frustrated by this, but I really liked her and hoped over the years she would open up sexually. Over the years, it never got any better but I learned to get over it. Well I ended up finding an old video from her college days of her engaging in group sex with 6 other people 5 guys 1 girl. In the video she has anal sex, oral sex, gets double teamed, and yells multiple times in the video she is a “I am a filthy whore.” All of it she was enthusiastic about it. I ended up feeling really sad. I can understand certain stuff people don’t want to do, but it wasn’t the fact she didn’t want to do them. She didn’t want to do them with me but every other guy she was their whore. I was angry hurt and I ended up saying some stupid shit to my wife.
I asked her if she could drop our daughter off at her sister’s house because I wanted to talk to her. She asked why, I told her we’d discuss after she came back.
I don’t remember all the details of the conversation, so I’ll try my best to sum it up. I was drinking a bit before she came which wasn’t the best idea.
Me: Is there anything about your past you have been hiding about me?
Her: Why are we talking about this?
Me: I just want to know were you in any type of porn or anything like that?
Her: are you taking drugs?
Me: I found your video from college with the other guys. I don’t know who you are anymore and I feel ill being around you.
She starts crying.
Me: Do you have anything to say?
She continues to cry. This was pointless I go to grab my keys to leave. And she tries to stop me.
Me: If you don’t want me to leave then I need you to be 100% honest with me, and tell me why you lied to me for all these years.
She: I didn’t want you to think I was a slut
Me: I would have been perfectly fine if you told me, I would have loved to have done those wild things with you. Look I get it I don’t turn you on like those other guys do. You liked sucking their dicks but not mine.
She: It’s not that, I didn’t want you to think less of me.
Me: No it is exactly that, there is a thing lying about sleeping with other guys. It’s not that you didn’t like doing those things. You didn’t like doing them with me.
She: I can do that stuff with you. I am attracted to you, you know that.
Me: I don’t want you to do it because you feel like you have to. I want someone that actually desires me.
She: I can change I promise don’t ruin our marriage over this we can work things out. We can go to marriage counseling seriously talk to me.
Me: Marriage counseling won’t change how you feel about me. Look I will try marriage counseling but I want a trial separation for now.
She: Please don’t do this. Don’t throw away our marriage for what I did in college please.
Me: Stop fucking acting like it’s a one time thing. Be honest with me how many guys did you fuck before me. How many guys dicks have you sucked, and how many guys have you let fuck you in the ass.
She: why does it matter, I said I’ll do them with you
Me: I am so fucking lucky. I got married to a whore, that fucks like a prude.
She: Please don’t waste all of our marriage for this. I am willing to change.
Me: I am not divorcing you but I want a trial separation for now, and I want to see how things go, right now I feel sick looking at you.
I ended up leaving my wife kept trying to stop me. She kept on begging saying I could do anything I wanted with her, it was truly pathetic and I lost all respect for my wife the way she was trying to manipulate me with sex.
I am staying at a motel right now; I have been getting constant calls from my wife. She has been asking me where I am, if I tell her than she is going to confront me and I don’t feel like I am ready for that. I feel so fucking drained. I feel bad saying those things to my wife but I don’t know what else to do I am so fucking hurt over this.
As I said before I wouldn’t care if she had a promiscuous past, seriously, wouldn’t care but the fact she did all those things for other guys but doesn’t do them for me hurts me the deepest.
I don’t see how this marriage can be recovered. I can’t change her attraction to me. My father has recently has been diagnosed with a tumor in his lung, and that has already been stressing me out pretty badly.
Please tell me what exactly I can do, my confidence as a man has been destroyed. Before I found out about this, I tried to get my wife to open up sexually but she completely shot it down. I really believe she isn’t attracted to me in the way she was to those other guys. That’s why she felt completely fine being “their whore” but won’t give me a blow job. I want a woman that looks at me lustfully, not that has sex with me to fulfill “wifey duties.”
I don’t feel entitled to other types of sex with my wife. I want her to want to do them. Now even if she does do them it will be out of guilt, not out of desire. I don’t see how we can recover our marriage. I feel really shitty that I won’t be able to seem my daughter as much, especially during her younger years.
I have already made some calls to reroute my paychecks and get my finances in order if we do go for a divorce. My brother works at a big law firm, I am thinking about contacting him to at least see what I should be doing now. Thing is once I call him it becomes the point of no return, if I tell my family members than their image of my wife becomes destroyed. Also I’d have to check because right now she is dependent on me for health insurance, and I don’t want her to be deprived of that if we do divorce, because she has been having health issues. I don’t want to ruin anything but I can’t see how things would ever be okay. If you don’t have any advice for me and are just going to be judgmental please don’t waste your time commenting. I know I said some hurtful things in there but you don’t know the level of hurt I am feeling right now. I have apologized to my wife since then, but I don’t see how our relationship can be recovered.
Edit – I want to make things work, between me and my wife. I understand she doesn’t want to do certain sex acts. I am considering proposing to her the idea of an open marriage. That way we can still be together as a family and we both can have the fulfilling sex lives we want.
Her behaviour was sickening; divorce, at this point, is the only option. Let’s bullet point this:
- Her betrayal wasn’t the premarital sex; as he said, he could have tolerated that. Her betrayal was the refusal to fulfil her marital vows for 7 years! Marriage demands full sexual availability from both partners.
- At the start, she could have faked her attraction – a good wife occasionally will when she’s ‘not in the mood.’ At this point there is no way that he can ever believe her again, no matter how much Game he learns, or how many weights he lifts. Even the paltry sex life they had has been destroyed by her deceitfulness.
- Her response was to deflect, emotionally manipulate with tears, and then desperately try to hold onto him. There isn’t an ounce of contrition in her body; had there been, she would have admitted that she didn’t deserve him. She would have allowed him to go, while working on herself in the Hope of earning him back – not the expectation that she was entitled to him.
- That she cheated on him during the marriage is a certainty.
- “The marriage” – how can you call this a marriage? He gave himself fully and completely; she treated him – at best – like a beloved dog. Not a husband. She never gave herself to him.
- Staying with her would set a bad example for his daughter; it would tell her that she can misbehave without consequences, that she can be a slut and use men. To be a dutiful father, he must divorce her.
To argue that he should stay with her for any reason – for the sake of the children, because of the wedding vows, scripture, et cetera – is to spit on the whole concept of the sanctity of marriage. It’s spitting in the faces of all the Ladies who work hard to be good wives. It’s arguing that – yet again – women should never suffer the consequences of their behaviour, that an emotional apology is all that’s needed to undo the destruction they wrought.
Feeling bad is not the same as atonement. Atonement means acknowledging the wrong you did, and embracing the consequences; knowing that you fully deserve them.
Staying with her preserves the appearance of morality, it gives him the appearance of having a strong back with which to carry others’ sins, but on the inside he’ll be crumbling. The resentment will grow and infect his every action. His pride will lead him into self-destruction, and he’ll lash out – subtly and innocuously – against her and his daughter. He’ll fall down into a pit of self-loathing, and he’ll raise another little girl who despise her father, and all of masculinity.
It’s only after we’ve lost everything that we’re free to do anything.
~Tyler Durden, Fight Club
Truly moral behaviour requires a detachment from the direct consequences of your actions. A complete relinquishment of life and property, a complete abandonment of your emotional well-being. Being moral isn’t about feeling good; it’s about doing what’s Right, regardless of all else.
No. Not even in the face of Armageddon. Never compromise.
There’s no guarantee that it’ll bring you success… but to do the opposite is to guarantee a Hell on Earth.
Jesus said unto him, If thou wilt be perfect, go and sell that thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come and follow me.
But when the young man heard that saying, he went away sorrowful: for he had great possessions.