Beta Males Create Hypergamy


You manifest your own reality.

I know what you’re thinking: nothing but the words of a self-help guru, some manipulative Eastern Mystic, selling bulk-bin books to the Housefrau at Walmart.  Quite frankly, I’m not a huge fan of that positive-thinking garbage, myself; I far prefer suffering.  As Jordan Petersen said in the video I linked yesterday, suffering is how you know you’re alive.

Happiness?  Happiness is the heroin drip, the video game addiction, the desire for Thanatos and self-elimination.  Happiness is Utopia, and Utopia’s nothing but the process of killing off everybody, one by one, until you’re the last man left alive – and then, finally, killing yourself, too: there you go, no more suffering!

Thanks, but I’ll pass.

“Manifesting your destiny” is almost always a pack of feel-good lies, a self-imposed delusion sold by a charlatan, to help you pretend that you aren’t suffering.  A slow form of suicide where you eliminate the self.  This is granted.

But a million fools saying something doesn’t make it untrue.

Deep Wisdom is the sort of thing that can’t be explained; it can only be understood.  It exists on the plane of Absolute Truth and explanations are forever relegated to the level of Objective Truth.  You can’t use science to prove Deep Wisdom, any more than you can use math to prove that math itself is valid.  All you can do is create a tautology – and this is where most of the Self-Help Books wind up.

Given that I find tautologies profoundly annoying, it’s probably best to drop the whole concept of Deep Wisdom.  Let’s instead focus on some non-obvious observations about the objective world.  In this case, the title of this essay: namely, that it’s sycophantic Beta Males who are ultimately responsible for the hypergamous women who spurn their advances, and chase after the bad boys.  After all, you do remember Spengler’s 11th Universal Law, don’t you?

At all times and in all places, the men and women of every culture deserve each other.

The Manosphere is largely written by the sort of Men who seek self-improvement; as a consequence, they are far more successful with women than your average guy.  A small but significant minority exists, however, which is mainly interested in tearing these Men down.  Their arguments come in various forms:

  • Game doesn’t work (or it only works on X type of girls),
  • You’re a narcissist and/or liar,
  • Sleeping with women is immoral/you don’t understand virtue,

…but regardless of the form it takes, the seething jealousy is evident.  There’s one unstated premise underlying all of it: “You’re hogging all of the girls for yourself!”

The reality of our situation is that Western women are choosing to sleep around.  As Dalrock has pointed out, Churchian shaming of males isn’t going to change any of this.  For one thing, most of the men these women are sleeping with don’t go to Church – and for another, even if they do go to church, even if they do stop sleeping with women, it only takes a handful of Players to de-maidenhead your entire flock.

For social shaming to work on Men, it would have to have 100% coverage; the proper target, he argues, is the women.

I think he’s slightly off the mark here.

While it would certainly be nice to have Churches acting Christian again, this would only slow the process, it wouldn’t stop it.  If there’s one thing the Manosphere knows about women, it’s how sneaky and determined they can be when they yearn for your bed. “Five minutes of Alpha is better than five years of Beta,” as Heartiste says.  The Churchians enable it, but they don’t cause it.

So what does?  Well, it’s not the Men who are practising Game.

Game largely boils down to following the “Reality Principle.” Recognizing women for what they are, being able to recognize the women who are looking for casual sex, and knowing how to present yourself as the sort of masculine Man whom they’re looking for.  In other words, women are still the gatekeepers of sex – they’ve simply thrown the gates wide open.

Women don’t get seduced, they allow themselves to be seduced.  If you don’t sleep with her, somebody else will.

The question we should be asking is why are they so eager to ride the carousel?  Feminist propaganda, affirmative action, and Churchian excuses will only get you so far.  They enable, they don’t cause.  If women didn’t want casual sex, they wouldn’t be having casual sex.  Their instincts didn’t suddenly change over the past 200 years!  There must be a prime-motivator behind it all.

And there is: Beta Male Orbiters.

Women cannot be happy without male attention.  Look no further than a Girls’ Night Out for evidence of this.  While men are more than happy to share a beer, talk shop, and ignore the womenfolk, you will never see a group of women who aren’t pining and preening for male attention.  The Bechdel Test made manifest, once again.

The Beta Males are the ones who feed into this.  They suck up to them on Pinterest and Facebook.  They take them out on dates, buy them dinner, and listen to them prattle.  They go out and White Knight for any woman that’s behaving badly.  They offer ceaseless, saccharine love and attention – and they never demand anything in return.

Thanks to them, women have had more than their dietary allotment of sweet stuff.

So when a woman goes out on the town, she isn’t looking for another orbiter; she’s already suckled off of the Betas, now she’s looking for 175° proof Alpha.  Game is all about understanding this.  The sort of Man who’s studied Game is the sort of Man who’s capable of both – he can be loving and protective, as well as virile and dominant – but thanks to the Betas, she only wants the latter.

If he feels like it, he’ll sleep with her; if he doesn’t, he’ll leave her to the Dark Triad sociopaths.  Either way, she’s sleeping with somebody, and it won’t be the Betas.

As for the Chaste girls?  Yeah, there’s a handful of them out there – but they’re hiding.  They don’t want to ride the carousel, but they don’t want the orbiter, either.  These are the girls who want the whole-deal in one man.

And the Betas can’t provide it.

So here’s the grand irony of it all: the Betas seethe with jealousy and fake-moralizations when they see the Alphas, but it wasn’t Alphas who made this world the way it is: it was the Betas.  Yes, Cain, it isn’t God who’s bringing you wilted crops, it your own sins, your own lack of Virtue which makes you so miserable.  Learn to hunt like your brother Abel, you miserable Grass Eater – the Hell you live in is of your own making.

You want to change the world?  Then remember the ancient proverb:

Luke 4:23
Physician heal thyself!

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Davis M.J. Aurini

Trained as a Historian at McMaster University, and as an Infantry soldier in the Canadian Forces, I'm a Scholar, Author, Film Maker, and a God fearing Catholic, who loves women for their illogical nature.

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31 Responses

  1. Gold brother. It flows from your mind, through your finger tips and onto the page.

    But the essay begs the question, who made the beta males?

    Single mothers trying to “help” their sons be nicer to women. Raised without a father to tell him that you should never listen to what a women says but instead to what they do.

    It’s the betas fault for not waking up. But not his fault he was born into a woman led household.

  2. will says:

    “While it would certainly be nice to have Churches acting Christian again, this would only slow the process, it wouldn’t stop it.”

    That’s probably why there is this law:

    Deuteronomy 22:13-21
    13 “If any man takes a wife, and goes in to her, and then spurns her, 14 and charges her with shameful conduct, and brings an evil name upon her, saying, ‘I took this woman, and when I came near her, I did not find in her the tokens of virginity,’ 15 then the father of the young woman and her mother shall take and bring out the tokens of her virginity to the elders of the city in the gate; 16 and the father of the young woman shall say to the elders, ‘I gave my daughter to this man to wife, and he spurns her; 17 and lo, he has made shameful charges against her, saying, “I did not find in your daughter the tokens of virginity.” And yet these are the tokens of my daughter’s virginity.’ And they shall spread the garment before the elders of the city. 18 Then the elders of that city shall take the man and whip him; 19 and they shall fine him a hundred shekels of silver, and give them to the father of the young woman, because he has brought an evil name upon a virgin of Israel; and she shall be his wife; he may not put her away all his days. 20 But if the thing is true, that the tokens of virginity were not found in the young woman, 21 then they shall bring out the young woman to the door of her father’s house, and the men of her city shall stone her to death with stones, because she has wrought folly in Israel by playing the harlot in her father’s house; so you shall purge the evil from the midst of you.

  3. Aurini says:

    Good question; I suspect that Keoni’s article might explain some of it: but obviously that theory alone is insufficient.

    Though at the same time, it’s a historical question, ain’t it? It’s not like many of had anyone to teach us all of this stuff – we’re figuring it out piece by piece.

    It’s one thing to be RTF when you’re 17, but if you haven’t started shaping up by age 25, you’re probably never going to.

  4. Bill Cosby says:

    It’s a bit too much of a scapegoat to blame men. Jeremy is right to state that anti male influences are the main reasons now why men are so poorly equipped. If anything what these hypergamous women need is to go through life either getting hitched or squeezing out children.

    The solution really isn’t to up the ante and give modern women what they want. Anyone getting what they demand without merit is how a sense of entitlement takes root, which is exactly what hypergamy is at this point. The days when you could chalk it up purely to evolutionary psychology are long gone.

    The double down approach will only work for so long before only the least scrupulous men are left standing, which we both know is a terrible thing for society. As you said in your own article there seems to be a preferential bias in these types of women toward sociopaths. The best strategy is not to encourage all men to compete madly to validate their ego in a dumpster diving contest, but to force those women to have little alternative than the sociopaths.

    Removing a food source from a parasite is the only way to kill it.

  5. Aurini says:

    That’s exactly what I’m saying, Bill; deny them of the food source they need for their attention – orbiting.

    Orbiting is a different type of validation than approaches. There’s no way to avoid the ego-inflation that OKCupid gives girls, but the Facebook can be prevented. It’s all about Men taking responsibility, and taking the Red Pill.

    Until the vast hordes of Betas are willing to do that, we’ll continue to have entitlement princesses who are worthless outside of the bedroom. Red Pill is just learning to swim against that stream.

  6. Kristophr says:

    Utopia is worse than mere self destruction.

    All utopias require the destruction of the existing civilization. Mere barbarians are nothing compared to a utopianist.

    I do agree that we all need to get off our asses, regardless.

  7. Bill Cosby says:

    It looks as if I made an error in my earlier post, I meant to say they should go through life NOT getting either hitched or pregnant.

    I agree with you in that respect, but that’s more of a self hygiene issue that men can do for themselves. For the most part whether it will have a beneficial effect on the current state of women in the short term, is not likely.

    The kinds of women that have a taste for social pathology in men are going to want it regardless, and I wouldn’t in good conscience recommend men go trampling in scores to out outdo one another to see who gets the ragged pussy. That’s a pretty sad, undignified way to live.

    That makes men look no better than a flock of seagulls fighting over a french fry in a McDonalds parking lot, It’s a silly game where everyone ends up losing in the end.

    You’re correct, less men trying to friend-zone themselves into the social strata of women would improve things. If only because women would be out of a sexless crying towel in human form, and I think existing solely on a diet of “Dark Triad” cock would eventually break their minds.

    This however is not why women started behaving like this to begin with, although I do believe it’s now a responsibility of men to force women to make a choice, while forcing themselves to come to the hard realization that the way they interact with women isn’t helping themselves.

    That being said, having all these men go out and slam-pig it up with these communal women isn’t going to help things either. You can’t randomly fuck women until they’re respectable. It doesn’t work like that.

    It really is all about men taking ownership of their choices, we all know what sort of situation we’re in. For some men it’s worth being that seagull that fights over the french fry and others not so much. You said it yourself, men are fucked for opportunities otherwise yet some will proceed in vain anyhow. Some men may not bother and that’s okay as well, as long as they don’t give those communal women the crying towel they want.

  8. Aurini says:

    Game is more about having options, than choosing to take every option. And in my experience, the guys I see getting complained about the most are the ones who’ve found one of the good girls and settled down.

  9. earl says:

    You make it sound like betas and women have something in common.

    They can see the blessings of others and get jealous…but they never look within to see why they don’t have them.

    If there is one thing game can teach these guys (or all guys really)…look within and fix that first. Then you’ll notice how much life makes sense when don’t have the log in your eye anymore.

  10. Freeman says:

    I agree that a woman’s nature is inherent, that is, hypergamy is a part of womens’ DNA programming. While beta male orbiting encourages it, I think historically the real moderating force were social pressures enforced by alpha males. Female behavior that encouraged cuckolding and family dissolution imposed harsh penalties. However, these kind of penalties are now illegal, and instead there are benefits which are encouraged by the state. Alpha males who attempt to impose a traditional social structure are punished. In this sense, I would argue that it is really the state that actively encourages hypergamy.

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  12. Stingray says:

    Sorry, Aurini. Trying to figure out why I couldn’t comment and forgot to fill in my handle. Delete away!

  13. Aurini says:

    Just glad you comments started coming through, Stingray!

  14. deti says:

    Brilliant stuff.

  15. Mina says:

    As laidNYC brought up last week and I agree with him: where are these girls FATHERS? Wouldn’t a stronger hand at home during these girl’s formative years make a huge difference? I think so.

  16. ablaux says:

    i’m with cosby on this. you seem to be arguing that it is possible for attention to exist in a vacuum and thus all relativism is dispelled.

    the survival minded minds will play their respective roles
    (beta = supplication / women = lets you and him fight / alpha = competition) so long as the nature of organismal competition remains on this earth.

    RE: the deuteronomy quote; in primitive societies, ensuring the progression to the “family unit” mode at the expense of the full realization of evolutionary biology by skipping over the courting stages provided the plausible solution to the quandary you’re mulling over.

  17. Bill Cosby says:

    Okay, hold up a sec.

    Who exactly are you talking about then? Because either it’s the male orbiters who statistically don’t get any play at all, as you said in your article. Or you’re referring to men who have secured the attention of women who don’t want to ride the communal carousel, who you described as being shrewd and discriminating.

    Maybe I’m mistaken but your reference to those women who don’t was passing, and not the main focus of the article, you seemed to convey that carouselers at this point are more or less the majority, at least as far as accessibility goes.

    Based on this and common sense. We already know that sexless orbiters and men who get into relationships with selective women can’t be the same demographic. Perhaps there’s a few one-offs, which may explain a very small number of those women complaining, it doesn’t explain your personal sampling of data.

    When it comes to the carousel women, you can partly blame orbiters for making them increasingly jaded and seeking the “Dark Triad” types as you like to put it. The other half of course would be the numerous men they choose instead of the orbiters.

    That still doesn’t explain these other women at all. You do have to hold women to a certain level of accountability here, in spite of them being irrational a lot of the time. If those women as you described are considerably more selective, then it really is their own fault. Which is why I state that for the most part, it’s about societal influences encouraging women to fantasize day to day about what they should be able to have.

    A sense of misplaced entitlement is really the only way you can explain choosy women still being unhappy with their choices, and we see it everywhere. “We can have it all” is the mantra of modern feminists, modern media provides a steady stream of fantasy enabling for all women. This is mainly why women jump on the carousel to begin with in droves these days. As Freeman also said, the state is now in full white knight mode and basically enabling women to be as temperamental as they want.

    But yeah, I agree society could do with fewer sexless orbiters trying in vain to compliment their way into relationships. Just remember we get bad programming from all angles and it wasn’t some conspiracy of “nice” guys that started it.

  18. dannyfrom504 says:

    beta males 1-make it more difficult for guys like us. 2-make women all the more predictible since they cross paths with red-pill men and get their hamster nuked.

  19. Bill Cosby says:

    Blaming other men for one’s own shortcomings, especially men that are perceived to be inferior to yourself is a pretty big cop out. It really doesn’t coincide with the notion of game itself and this article. Which is telling men they have the power to solve their own problems.

  20. Aurini says:

    Bill, the point of this whole post is offering a demonstrable instance of the deep wisdom statement “You create your own reality.” In other words – THE WHOLE POINT IS THAT YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE.

    Two types of girls:
    1. Carousel riders ~95%
    2. Good girls ~5%

    The temptation of sexual pleasure isn’t enough to encourage the carousel riders; first and foremost they need male approval, and absent that they will not ride the carousel (at most they’ll try casual sex a couple of times, and learn that they hate it). No amount of Feminism, Marxism, or Affirmative Action is sufficient. Furthermore, none of them are necessary – in a society absent those things (but abundant in free male attention) these women will sneak out at night to ride the carousel in secret.

    Good Girls: call it luck, or call it Calvinist predeterminism – doesn’t matter here. The fact is that (it is possible that) they exist, and they want the whole man, both the virility and the protection.

    Three types of men:
    1. Omega sexual degenerate
    2. Gamma/Beta spectrum
    3. Alpha/Beta spectrum

    The Omega is the scam artist, dark triad, travelling salesman. The carousel riders throw themselves at him, and he loves it.

    The Beta feeds free male attention to the carousel girls, which casuses is the fundamental reason they can exist. The carousel girls don’t sleep with him; neither do the good girls.

    The Alphas have both sides within them, the sexual side, and the loving side; the carousel riders can’t tell them apart from the Omegas. They get offered the pussy that the Betas crave. The good girls see the Alphas, and see the whole man – this is whom the Alphas wind up marrying.

    “You do have to hold women to a certain level of accountability here, in spite of them being irrational a lot of the time.”

    That’s precisely what I’m doing; if she’s a carousel rider I might sleep with her, but that is all I’ll do. She’s only worth sleeping with, so I’ll only sleep with her. That is Justice.

    The Good Girls will earn my devotion and sacrifice.

    I won’t actively encourage more women to be carousel riders – keeping in mind, that seducing them isn’t encouragement in the least. Pedastalization is.

    This is what Love looks like. Like I’ve said, I’m Lawful Good – *not* Lawful Nice.

  21. Bill Cosby says:

    I agree it’s not simply sexual pleasure that gets women to the point of fucking a lot of dudes. It’s that sense of self validation, which is what I was referring to when it comes to feminist indoctrination. Damn near everything about it is cult-like, it’s nothing but a lot of feel good bullshit. And women are attracted to it like fish to bait.

    Another point is that women also compete with one another over really stupid things, and feminist propaganda creates that setting where women simply will not be outdone in seeking personal validation.

    Women don’t carousel themselves primarily for sexual pleasure any more than they do because they’re seeking an idealized partner. If there are any cases where that applies, it’s not many. This is the same reason they’re willing to tolerate the attention of sexless orbiters, it’s validation at any cost.

    I would say neither those men or feminism are the main cause, but they both amplify it to the point where the majority of them simply aren’t worth anything more than a good fuck. And if that’s all you’re willing to give them, then you’re doing god’s work.

  22. Glenfilthie says:

    I wonder if you aren’t thinking too much Aurini.

    I don’t understand any of this. The betas and orbiters and other catch phrases whose definitions twist and shift depending on who’s using them…and you are obsessed with what others are doing and how to take advantage of them. How can you even hope to have a meaningful relationship if you spike it before it even gets started?

    Don’t get me wrong, I know something is hugely wrong with our women today and the liberals and feminists that are misleading them and enabling them…but as an outsider from better times looking in at you young men struggling to deal with this…I don’t think you’re doing it right! Something about this post rings false.

    The hell of it is I don’t know what the proper way to deal with today’s modern femcunt is either. They just seem to be a lose/lose proposition any way you cut it, and any relationship you have with them will not be worthwhile either…

    Er…pardon my fwench.

  23. Rachael says:

    I might be wrong but I am pretty sure that Davis thinks of the terms alpha and beta as being on a spectrum, not the black and white set standards. I remember a youtube vid of his that talked of it which is why this post made me think of it…

    He isn’t blaming froma black and white pic saying he is all alpha and all these betas are causing the issues, he is trying to critique the whole dynamic. The only way to fix things is not just blaming but learning from mistakes of others and oneself… its called constructive criticism and it seems the point would be to encourage other guys to also see this and move further up the beta-alpha spectrum.

    If people take this post offensively maybe it is because it has something to do with your own insecurities… and instead of projecting of getting mad maybe do a self assessment and make a change.

  24. RMO says:


    You introduced me, I think you did it might have been cappy cap, to a book by anonymous conservative about the r/k strategy and it’s affect on politics

    I think that there is truth in the idea that being a k selected individual (or close to that extreme on the spectrum) and being beta is detrimental to K seletected individuals everywhere, as well as being damaging to yourself, but it only applies to ks (or close ks)

    R selected men are going to always be looking for r strategies. Disguise themselves in feminine attributes to dodge the k competition. R men are going to do it. The friendzone is actually fucking great for that, if you’re a dark triad/ alpha male (which now that I consider it probably isn’t part of the r/k distinction so much, maybe k are a bit more masculine alpha) as it cuts beta rs out of reproduction. Unfortunately as you said the attention is still being given.

    I think the important thing is to find k selected women if you’re a k since they are more likely to stay with you and give a shit about your Children. Unfortunatley, as much as betas have orbited the shit out of both r/k, the r women will still be out there.

    This r/k theory is beginning to fill the branches of my brain in such a way to exhibit signs of cognitive bias. Damn it, now I need to check anonconservs sources. Not that I think he’s wrong, but cognitive biases are terrible for any intellectual honesty I can claim to.

  25. Women are relativists and they will always grade men on an extreme curve, for top 1%, meaning a ‘local’ #1 of all available men.

    Women are NOT the gatekeepers of sex. The elite hidden patriarchy is. Before, the civilian patriarchy was. In the wild where women developed their relativism to such a sharp edge, both men and women were the gatekeepers of sex. Ask a woman if you may kiss here and its over. Rape fantasy assumes the man in the gatekeeper. Sure, in the wild, women could sometimes be the gatekeeper and thwart an attempt, but she probably ran to the protection of an alpha to do it for her.

    Hypergamy was always there: chicken and egg. Only membership in sovereign patriarchy can provide men (and their women) with quality spouses. Civilization is a construct of civilized patriarchs who put women in their place BEFORE they are exhausted by life hardening. Yes, men and women of the same time and place deserve each other. I will employ the narcissism, thank you. I think 5% good girls is a little high. lol Matters not. Patriarchy makes nuclear family possible. Pals before gals is the natural requirement. Betas are far short. I say that as a recovering beta or omega or whatever. Hard to know how to weigh items in the basket of masculine goods.

  26. Roi says:

    Just rewatched your video on “The Corporate Boyfriend”, where you compare it to a “beta boyfriend”. Depending on how common that pattern is, I’m sure a lot of women could get their fill of niceness just from that. I don’t have enough work exeprience to know if it’s the same kind of attention they get from facebook, but it is a section of their life that is “occupied”.

  27. Mike Schonewolf says:

    I disagree, hypergamy is a integral part of female nature and that won’t stop if you use game, she’ll be looking for another peacock well after she tarnishes your feathers.

  28. Hera Sent Me says:

    You said this:

    “Happiness is Utopia, and Utopia’s nothing but the process of killing off everybody, one by one, until you’re the last man left alive – and then, finally, killing yourself, too: there you go, no more suffering!”

    It’s a profound statement. But it doesn’t say what you think it does. You think it describes the twisted emptiness of life. It doesn’t. It describes the twisted emptiness of you.

    Utopia for you is killing everybody off, then killing yourself. You can’t just kill yourself so there’s “no more suffering”, you have to kill the rest of us first.

    Twisted. Misanthropic. Evil. Sad.

  29. surf camp says:

    I do not write a ton of remarks, however i did a few searching and wound up here Beta Males
    Create Hypergamy – Stares at the World. And I actually do have a few questions for you if it’s
    allright. Is it just me or does it appear like some of the comments look as if they are coming from brain dead people?
    :-P And, if you are writing on additional places, I’d like to keep up with anything fresh you have to post.
    Would you list of every one of your community sites like your Facebook
    page, twitter feed, or linkedin profile?

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